Hulahoops88 Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 I broke up with my girlfriend in August. It crushed her. It was a great relationship but I just had commitment issues and the fact it was going so well scared me. I was ok after the break up, I still missed her a bit but we met and chatted quite often. She still wanted it to work but as time moved on I stood my ground. Start of November we met and I noticed she was distant. Turns out she was back dating. I had already began having feelings for her again and this news triggered me to act fast to win her back. Reluctantly she came to me, she told me she still loved me. I felt she was holding back. Turns out she slept with someone while we were apart. I reacted as if she cheated on me and said some horrible things. It was silly me of in hindsight to say them. The past month has been awful. I overwhelmed her with texts and calls to apologies and try to get back on track. She told me only a few weeks ago and wanted a future. Now she has blocked me on facebook has gone back on the dating scene and told me to move on... I'm so confused. Does she still care for me and just needs time? Have I lost her completely? We're my feelings just triggered by the news that she was moving on? I think I love her and I'm scared I won't find someone like her. I'm nostalgic now and miss all the great things about her but she seems done.
Ieris Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 You definitely overreacted especially if she isn't your girlfriend (you're the one who let her go by the way). Just calm down right now and give her a bit of space, don't plead, don't beg. Send her a simple Merry Christmas message tomorrow and leave it as that. I don't know when you last spoke to her but even if she doesn't reply, she may still be annoyed with you so don't go over analyzing everything. Give her more time and space until she is read to talk x 1
leafguy Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 Sound advice from Ieris. Id second the wishing her a Merry Xmas and leave it for a little while and see what she does. If you get a response, don't flood her with emails / texts. Move on with your life in the mean time and enjoy time with friends / family. You need to be your own priority and hopefully she will come around. Space is key in these situations and it is the hardest thing to do, but it is what you need to do. 1
FancyFace Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 Hope this doesnt come across as rude but before you start any other "get her back tactics" please ask yourself the following questions and answer them honestly: Do you actually want to be with her or are you just reacting to dumpers remorse? The kind where you assumed that she would always be there for you even though you deep down dont even want her? Are you sure that you dont just want her because she is now unattainable? Why did it have to take her moving on for you to kick into high gear? I don't suffer from committment issues so maybe I lack the understanding and forgive me for that but I would assume that if you really love and want someone it doesnt take them closing the door and bolting it shut to move on with their lives in order to make you realise you love them and want to be with them. Be honest and fair and compassionate in your assessment of this situation. 1
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