eve90 Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 So I'm dating this guy for about a little over a month. He's never really made any effort as far as texting or calling to say hello, even in the very beginning. We've seen each other about once a week and have had sex twice, since the 4th date or so. We met on Tinder and he has not been "active" since we hooked up, but at the same time, he makes NO effort to contact me either, except to make a date. Since our last date (last weekend) I haven't heard from him, which is nothing out of the ordinary for him but I'm just wondering if anyone else has experienced this? If he was still very active on tinder then i'd just assume he's just hooking up everywhere. Any ideas?
NoMoreJerks Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 Life's too short to wonder and wait for someone who, for all you know, might be treating you as an option when he's got nothing better to do. Hit the next button IMO. I'm not saying it's out of the ordinary or that he's playing you, but if it's making you wonder, then you are not compatible in terms of your expectations. 1
Satu Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 It looks like he enjoys having sex with you, but not very much. 2
doeblin Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 Communicate.Tell him you want a proper relationship, and that involves meeting more than once a week, and being in contact (almost) every day. If he's still aloof the week after you've told him this, then he is not that interested in a long-term relationship and you may need to go your separate ways. Do tell him what you expect.
mangetout Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 You are something to do when he is bored. I would move on 6
preraph Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 Sounds like how a busy person dates to me. It's best NOT to chat all week because then what do you have left to talk about in person? If he's getting you out once a week, great. Yes, he may be dating someone else as well. Too soon to worry about that. Why not just keep doing what you're doing, which is going out once a week, which sounds great to me, for at least another couple of months before you start worrying about the permanence of it.
spiderowl Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 Maybe he's the kind of guy who sees dates as an opportunity to have sex and nothing else. He is not relating to you in any other way it seems. A relationship is about relating. Sounds like he's only interested in sex. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 I don't think I'd call this "dating." I think you've been out a couple times and he is interested primarily in sex. If you're looking for a relationship, this guy isn't the one for it. 2
Diezel Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 Well, you did meet on Tinder. But to be honest, I've done this as well in the beginning of serious relationships. The culture has changed to be actively involved calling/texting everyday. I don't like that, nor do I have the time for that and it also seems to kill attraction most of the time, specially in the first months. The most important question is: How does he act when you two go out on dates?
soyou Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 I'm 1000% sure that this guy sees you as a part-time hook up. If relationship is what you're looking for, I could advice you to run away from this guy immediately. If a guy likes you enough, he will show it either way. He will make effort to be around you and talk to you. Zero or little effort means there is nothing serious there from his end.
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