Author Sandrino Posted December 26, 2014 Author Posted December 26, 2014 OMG, dude, from what you posted here - she wouldn't know a good man if he slapped her upside the head. She's a child who likes to play games. And, please re-read my post. There's a difference between "nice" and "good" guys. Please try to see the difference. Nice guy = Doormat Good guy = Commands respect, gentleman, demonstrates "strength" -women (not children) want that. And, seems like you want to blame yourself, the other guy, the sun, the moon - everything except for "her". Dude, like I said, at her age - 17 - I wasn't "tricking" guys. I, even back then, did not get "thrills" off of jumping in and out of bed with dudes and f-ing with dudes heads. I concentrated on school, graduated top 10% of the whole school - despite a language barrier. Ok.... This chick does not appear to have any character and morality, regardless of her immaturity and age. So, you could be the best thing that would happen for her - doesn't matter. She doesn't want it. Or, playing devil's advocate here - even "if" you did something to make her want to date others, you've been trying and trying and she doesn't want it. So you tried, maybe it's time to take what you learned and apply it to someone else. I did put my foot down and create boundaries. Maybe i wasnt aggressive enough? I told her to quit talking to the guy, but she did anyways. I know its annoying. But i dont know why i cant blame her. Right now, all i can blame is myself, for allowing it to happen for so long, and for being who i am, which made her stray. I loved her alot. When i was 17, i would NEVER cheat on anyone either. I just wish i could stop blaming myself, but the guy above isn't really helping. I am a good guy. Im not a pushover. A pushover, wouldn't even set boundaries, he would let it all go and love her anyways. This girl disrespected the boundaries that i set, and did what she wanted anyways. Is that really me to blame?
Gloria25 Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I did put my foot down and create boundaries. Maybe i wasnt aggressive enough? I told her to quit talking to the guy, but she did anyways. I know its annoying. But i dont know why i cant blame her. Right now, all i can blame is myself, for allowing it to happen for so long, and for being who i am, which made her stray. I loved her alot. When i was 17, i would NEVER cheat on anyone either. I just wish i could stop blaming myself, but the guy above isn't really helping. I am a good guy. Im not a pushover. A pushover, wouldn't even set boundaries, he would let it all go and love her anyways. This girl disrespected the boundaries that i set, and did what she wanted anyways. Is that really me to blame? A good man commands respect. If he isn't getting respect. He walks away. He doesn't beg, plead, etc. Setting "boundaries", then hanging around when they're broken is not commanding respect.
Author Sandrino Posted December 26, 2014 Author Posted December 26, 2014 A good man commands respect. If he isn't getting respect. He walks away. He doesn't beg, plead, etc. Setting "boundaries", then hanging around when they're broken is not commanding respect. I know. Sad isnt it. I was blinded by love to a point where i was taken advantage of, and turned into a wuss..
Gloria25 Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I know. Sad isnt it. I was blinded by love to a point where i was taken advantage of, and turned into a wuss.. It's not "love"...it's dependency, desperation, hornies, emotions - anything "but" love. Love is - per my fav podcaster - "awe, admiration, and respect". From what you posted about this chick, I see her having NONE of those attributes.
Author Sandrino Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 It's not "love"...it's dependency, desperation, hornies, emotions - anything "but" love. Love is - per my fav podcaster - "awe, admiration, and respect". From what you posted about this chick, I see her having NONE of those attributes. Almost a month in no contact, its new years eve tomorrow, and thats going to SUCK. I refuse to go out with friends, even though i was invited. I just cant do it. I just hope i survive it.. I'm just gonna sit at home and drink all night, while shes probably out making memories and moving on. Its sad when its one sided...
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