Mizz Layta Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 I am finally healing from a break up since I cut off contact with him. However, I have been reflecting back to our relationship and that was point in our relationship when he texted me and said there is something he needed to tell me. I then told him that I was in buss and will be home in 15 minutes give or take and I will call him when I get home. I then called him as soon as I get home and I could tell something was wrong. He paused and then told me that he chilled with his ex and they ended up sleeping together at his house. I was devastated and hung up on him. I started crying and when I cooled off I asked him how it happened. Apparently,his ex started texting him few weeks earlier to the incident just to say hi. They started talking texting catching up and then she asked him if they could hangout. This was all done without my knowledge. Then when he invited her at his house .They started talking and she kissed him .One thing led to another and they ended up having sex. The funny thing is his ex already knew about me from his words but it didn't stop her to ask him to hangout .I had no idea that they were in contact up to the day he confessed of sleeping with her He was crying and begging for forgiveness .He even told me that he will cut her out of his life for me. It was very painful for me .He then called her and told her that its best they stop contact because he was trying to work things with me.His ex was upset so she called me and beg me to let them stay in contact but I held my ground and say I didn't want them to stay in touch if he wants to stay with me. I decided to stay with him but it took a while to get past what had happen.Then 2 months later, i found out that he had started talking to her behind my back .I even texted his ex and she confirmed that he had called her few weeks earlier but she insisted that they are just friends. I was upset again and confronted him and he apologized for betraying me but swear that they are just friends and nothing is going on with them. He just wants to be pat of her life because they have been through allot together and he took her virginity etc. I then told him that if he wants to stay with me then he needs to cut her out of his life .He said he would try but then it turned out they still kept talking despite me telling me not to .however,they finally stopped talking because she had lied to him about something else that was unrelated to me. I found this out through his friend ex friend after we broke up. we broke up for other reasons after few years but now I have been reflecting back and I don't why NC has opened old wounds. He put me through allot of pain and heart break. Is it normal to reflect back at the relationship in NC?
cif Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 How long have you been broken up? Yes, it's normal to reflect on old relationships and work through feelings in NC. The important thing is not to wallow in self pity. You should be moving forward with your life, living it, bettering yourself.. which appears you are. Good on you for dumping this guy. Sounds like he had no idea what he wanted. Don't look back. 1
Author Mizz Layta Posted December 24, 2014 Author Posted December 24, 2014 How long have you been broken up? Yes, it's normal to reflect on old relationships and work through feelings in NC. The important thing is not to wallow in self pity. You should be moving forward with your life, living it, bettering yourself.. which appears you are. Good on you for dumping this guy. Sounds like he had no idea what he wanted. Don't look back. Its been almost 2 months
Ieris Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 It's almost like pressing rewind and watching the whole thing again and you notice things that you didn't the first time. You now pick up on the red flags that were waving in your face but didn't at the time. It's interesting and you may think to yourself how you would have done things differently. Learn from those mistakes and take away something positive from the whole experience x 1
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