Grevensteiner Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 Well, I know one girl for half a year, I lied to her, and I was kind of a...bad boy, a little bit. We almost broke up because of my lies...twice. Then I wanted a relationship with her, but she said she doesn't trust me and I have to be 100% myself and talk to her about my true feelings. Not to mention that she said she doesn't want a relationship even though there was exclusivness, sex, hands holding, saying "I love you", kissing, etc. But then I started telling her everything I feel about her. And everytime she started doing something that made me anxious, I was telling her that, even though I know I shouldn't. So everytime she wasn't answering my texts for more than 2 hours, I was acting anxious. Everytime she didn't wanna meet more often than every 2nd day...I was acting anxious. Well, I was telling her that. And it seems like if she started to loose interest slowly. I mean, it was passionate earlier, now she stopped saying "I miss you", stopped initiating meetings, stopped wanting to have sex that much. Should I stop talking about my feelings and start acting a bit more like a challenge again? Why does that happens? Why did it happen? How should healthy relationship look like?
todreaminblue Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 to me a healthy relationship is where you can say exactly how you feel and you can talk about your feelings good or bad without fear its going to harm the relationship.....but only make it better..... a deeper knowledge develops on how each person in the relationship feels, to me, is not a bad thing but a necessary thing..... when two peopler cant discuss how they feel openly and honestly...then that to me is an issue...it means i cant relate to the person i am with ....cant form any sort of deepening bond and knowledge of the guy i am with if a guy i am with is hurt by my actions or a lack of knowledge i would rather he enlighten me so i dont do it again......or we discuss why and how he feels eventually he wont need to tell me because i develop an instinct that is all about him..........from knowledge of his feelings and the way he relates in a relationship and the same for him for me...i let him know if i dont like something ....and he can develop and relate to me....internally fi the relationship is strong between two peopel who relate well to each other...the external pressure and trials can be overcome......by pulling together not apart.....united in keeping the relationship open and honest.........that to me is healthy.... if there are continuing issues of anxiety in your relationship..... means the issues are not dealt with ...and of course continuing.....the only way to deal ....is to talk it out.....if a woman cant relate to the way you feel or make an effort to relate to the way you feel...she isnt the right woman for you...ignorance solves nothing.....communication and understanding openness and honesty and kindness solve issues...not avoidance..........deb
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