Spongerob Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 My ex dumped me just over a month ago and immediately started seeing someone else. During that time we still saw eachother and had sex a couple of times and spent a lot of time together. I begged for her back at the beginning and she repeatedly told me how much she loved me and missed me, but she kept on seeing this new guy. Anyway after a couple of texts last week she messaged me saying that she was happy I had accepted she was with her new guy and wished me well for the future. I then replied by saying since we have now brought some closure to this I will be blocking her number as it still hurt to talk to her. I would also find myself waiting for a text or a call from her and checking my phone very often. I was dating a girl a couple of weeks or so ago which didn't work out, but during that time I could tell how jealous she was and she kept telling me how much she disliked her and that she wasn't good enough for me. It has now been 5 days since I blocked her. I unblocked her earlier to see if she has been trying to contact me still and she has called me every day since I blocked her and sent one text, so obviously she is still thinking about me. I still want her back. I'm just wondering if I should keep her blocked or unblock her and go low/no contact. I'm worried if I keep her blocked it will make her think I'm no longer interested in getting her back. But if I unblock her I know it'll still hurt when I see a message form her and I'll probably give in and message her back at some point. What should I do?
Zahara Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 I'm just wondering if I should keep her blocked or unblock her and go low/no contact. Keep her blocked. I'm worried if I keep her blocked it will make her think I'm no longer interested in getting her back. I believe you told her that you have to block her because contact hurts you. She's not a dope not to understand why you did it. She stated she is happy with her boyfriend and if that changes, she will surely find another way to contact you. But if I unblock her I know it'll still hurt when I see a message form her and I'll probably give in and message her back at some point. What should I do? Keep her blocked. 1
dumbass2 Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 You cannot unblock her. you told her that you were. She is testing to see if you are a man of your word or if you are weak. Of course she's gong to think about you. Sometimes ex's don't want you, but they want to know that you will hang around in case things don't work out. If you unblock and stay in contact, then that is what you will be giving her. I really think you should go NC from here on out. Someone that is weak and needy is not attractive to anyone. You need to be strong for your self.
Author Spongerob Posted December 23, 2014 Author Posted December 23, 2014 Thank you for your advice. I will stick it out. I have just been reading a few things that say if your ex contacts you a lot during no contact you shouldn't completely ignore them and you should 'play it cool'. But I know I cannot go back on myself or I'll be back to square one. Thanks again
Zahara Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 Thank you for your advice. I will stick it out. I have just been reading a few things that say if your ex contacts you a lot during no contact you shouldn't completely ignore them and you should 'play it cool'. But I know I cannot go back on myself or I'll be back to square one. Thanks again Play it cool. Fiddlesticks. What's the point in playing it cool when the reality is that it hurts you. It's counter productive and foolish. And this one's a cheater. Having sex with you while she's with another man. Contacting you while she is with another man. Stay NC. She's no prize.
Standard-Fare Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 Stay strong and keep her blocked. If she has something important to say to you, she has other means of reaching out to you. I'm saying this because I agree with the others... she's proven herself capable of toying around with you and hurting you in the process. But just to play devil's advocate: This tactic also works for your (however irrational) desire to get her back. The only way to force her to think seriously about your absence from her life is to actually BE absent. Show her what a breakup really means. If there's even a slim chance of her having seconds thoughts, this process is necessary for her to gain clarity.
Author Spongerob Posted December 23, 2014 Author Posted December 23, 2014 I know you are right. I started NC a while ago and made it to a week before she contacted me in the 1 place I forgot to block her (twitter) and then I was back to the start. It won't happen this time. I just need a bit of encouragement when times are hard. Thank you all!
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