patagonia12 Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 Hello lovely people, So, I met this guy (let's call him Will) a few years ago at my cousin's wedding. Will was my cousin's younger brother's best friend from college. We all had a lot of fun together, but no connections were made. Skip forward to the younger cousin (Josh)'s wedding this past September. Will and his friends all remembered me from the last wedding and were eager to talk and hang out the whole weekend. Will and I hit it off at the wedding -- there was a girl following him around (who I assumed was his gf), so he called me over and made up this story that he and I had been dating for the past 6 years. I played along with it, a little dumbfounded, until he explained that the girl had aways had a thing for Josh and had come to the reception unannounced. Will started talking to her to get her away from my cousin, then she wouldn't leave him alone. For the rest of the night we teased each other, danced, etc. We talked nonstop at the after party as well. Then, he went back to his first year of business school in Chicago. We had exchanged numbers, so maybe a week later I mentioned to him that there's a grad school I'm looking into in Chicago, so I might be asking him questions in the months to come... he responded and was nice, but then didn't really have much follow up, so I decided he wasn't that into me. He butt dialed me a few weeks later, then started a convo, but again didn't continue it. Wasn't meant to be. I think maybe a month has passed, and he just texted me last night: "Hey just a heads up- I broke the news to Josh that we are engaged to be engaged. So expect him to give you some ****." Pretty funny and more like how he was at the wedding, but very random? We continued to banter, then he asked me how I was liking being home (just moved home to take a few classes) and remembered where I was from and all of that. Then, he said he was off to bed, but was looking forward to seeing me soon when I come up to Chicago to check out grad schools (never told him I was). And said, "That will be any day now, right?" And repeated again that he expected to see me soon. So, my question is... do you think he was maybe just busy before and this is genuine? Or, do you think something else is going on here? I had pretty much decided he wasn't interested, so now I'm a bit skeptical of the whole thing. Like maybe he and my cousin are in on a joke. Many thanks in advance! (Btw, the cousins I referred to are my distant cousins, so not guys I'm super close to. We see each other at weddings and reunions every now and then.)
Author patagonia12 Posted December 23, 2014 Author Posted December 23, 2014 Too long? My apologies for being long-winded!
TigerLilly78 Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 To long? not compared to some of the great walls of text ive seen on here..lol far as the situation at hand it just sounds like hes trying to be friendly my guess the "josh engagement" thing was his way of trying to open a friendly funny line of communication after you two not talking for a while is he interested romantically? hard to tell as its to early he clearly wants to see you so hes interested in something be it friendship or more is anyone's guess at this point..
Author patagonia12 Posted December 24, 2014 Author Posted December 24, 2014 Thanks so much for the reply! That makes sense. I tend to get ahead of myself if I'm actually into someone, ha. If I do decide to visit Chicago anytime soon, clearly I'll say something, but should I just wait until he reaches out to me again in the meantime?
TigerLilly78 Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 Thanks so much for the reply! That makes sense. I tend to get ahead of myself if I'm actually into someone, ha. If I do decide to visit Chicago anytime soon, clearly I'll say something, but should I just wait until he reaches out to me again in the meantime? You like this man as a friend yes? I dont see why you have to wait to contact him then treat this as any other friendship...
xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 Sounds like the distance factor isn't worth the "effort". Even if I like someone it is not worth my time perusing if they live to far away or are moving soon. As of what do to right now I'd just sit back enjoy the banter if he contacts you it's unfortunate but you should move on to people in your local dating pool.
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