bf didn't invite me for xmas

[losangelena]

No, you shouldn't say anything because taking home a woman for a major holiday is going to be considered a milestone by either the man or someone in his family. It's too soon. You're not family. Some people take that sort of thing really seriously. Others don't and just welcome random people into their home, knowing that next year, Junior will bring home yet another girl. But for some, it's tantamount to announcing engagement. He's not ready for stirring things up like that with his family and get them all prying is my guess.

 

Yes, but we're not sure how long they've been dating or what the status of their relationship is. It seems like they've barely had a discussion about it beyond him knowing that she doesn't have plans.

 

However, I don't think there's any harm in asking, especially since she said she just wanted him to "care enough" to ask. That to me doesn't sound like getting an invite to Christmas dinner is tantamount to an engagement announcement.

[Brooke02]

Long enough to have already been to dinner with his parents

 

Oh that long huh? Great.

[TigerLilly78]

You are intentionialy avoiding the direct question of how long you two have been togher why is that? you can go to dinner with his parents on the 1st day you meet them so that doesn't mean anything..

[stillafool]

Long enough to have already been to dinner with his parents

 

I don't know how long that is but this could happen at any time. I will just assume you have been dating 2 months. It is too soon to go to Christmas dinner unless he is very serious about you which he is not given the amount of time you've dated. I agree with dOnnivain that since you don't celebrate Christmas why would this be a big deal to you especially since you haven't been dating very long.

[Diezel]

They haven't been together for long, from what I can remember. If she couldn't communicate to him that she couldn't afford to split a bill, I highly doubt she can communicate to him about spending Christmas together.

 

He's not going to win either way. He'll not invite her and she'll get mad. Or if she invites her, it's not because he really wants to, it's because she probably will act in a passive-aggressive manner about it.

[organizedchaos]

He knows I'm doing nothing and will be alone...

 

Why did you never tell him you were hoping to spend Xmas together?

[mammasita]

I just went back and browsed your threads.....this is the FWB 50/50 guy huh?

 

He doesn't think about things from your perspective, and likely never will. If you want something from this guy from this point forward, you have to speak up or you'll never get it, resulting in you always being resentful.

 

If that doesn't work for you and you need a more intuitive man, he's probably not the one for you.

[Tonic]

Clingy girlfriend is clingy - ask the dude for gods sake.. im a guy who doesn't pick up on hints and all that very well. Id much prefer that said person just askes me or brings it up.. you are making this whole situation way more painful than it needs to be..

 

And not to mention you said yourself you dont celebrate this event? Kind of reminds me of the situation were a kid is playing with another kids toy that hasn't been touched in forever, but if the kid that owns it, sees some else with it.. he wants it.

[Els]

Why do you keep avoiding the questions about how long you've been together? If it's been say 4 years, I'd say you have a point. 4 months, just ask him, and even then 'no' is a totally acceptable answer.

[TigerLilly78]

Yet another example of a women taking FWB to far is that whats going on op? IF it is and hes let it be known clearly then he doesn't owe you anything im sorry..

[MissBee]

It does seem a bit suspicious that you won't give a specific time frame for how long you've been together...

 

If you don't celebrate Christmas then perhaps he didn't think you'd want to have Christmas dinner with his family.

 

Further, if you're not a long-time, established and serious couple (which is how it's seeming based on your reluctant response) many people find it too soon to be inviting SO's for Christmas dinner. I'm VERY careful about allowing a boyfriend to get close to my family before we're very established, a year or less to me is a bit too soon for him to be coming to Christmas dinner. I of course would make an exception if he has no family close by to celebrate with and such both otherwise no. I also wouldn't be offended if my boyfriend of less than a year didn't invite me to Christmas dinner, unless of course I had no family and would be alone then yea, I'd think he'd offer but if my family doesn't celebrate Christmas and he knew or I have my own family, I'd understand him not inviting me.