GuskeGee Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 Okay, so I was at the movies with some of my friends a couple of days ago, and one of them brought a friend along with her. I felt attracted to her INSTANTLY. I rarely have it like that. Of course the situation was a bit difficult because we barely spoke since we were watching a movie, but she did sit next to me, so I exchanged a few words here and there, but it was VERY difficult to have a normal conversation. After the film, my friend and that girl took a selfie with me and one of my friends and then they had to go. Since then, I have NO IDEA how to handle this situation. If we had met at a club, party or different event, it would've been 10 times easier. I don't know anything about this girl, I don't know if she finds me attractive or whatever, but I'd love to ask her out or at least get in contact with her. What's the best thing to do here? Advice needed.
angel.eyes Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 Contact her via Facebook. Movies aren't conducive to social interaction. Next time, as you're all getting up to leave, suggest to the group that you grab drinks, coffee, ice cream, pizza, or whatever and discuss the movie. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 So during the time after the movie, when you, your friend, and this girl took a selfie, and right before they left, you couldn't just ask the girl for her number? The alternative is ask your friend for her number.
Lokin4AReason Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 got to have a ice breaker ( or something similar ) as angels eyes has mentioned, an excellent way to breaker the ice and come out being respectful/ gentleman like ( also do not forget opening/ closing the door ) =0)
d0nnivain Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 Make sure the next time you see your mutual friend you ask that person to bring this girl along.
Author GuskeGee Posted December 24, 2014 Author Posted December 24, 2014 Contact her via Facebook. Movies aren't conducive to social interaction. Next time, as you're all getting up to leave, suggest to the group that you grab drinks, coffee, ice cream, pizza, or whatever and discuss the movie. Contact her via Facebook and say what? I'm all for meeting somewhere else, but there needs to be a better opportunity. I already asked our mutual friend if she/they had plans for New Year's because I'm throwing a party - but they're already attending a party.
Satu Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 I don't know anything about this girl, I don't know if she finds me attractive or whatever, but I'd love to ask her out or at least get in contact with her. What's the best thing to do here? Advice needed. Ask her out for a nice one-to-one dinner.
Author GuskeGee Posted December 24, 2014 Author Posted December 24, 2014 Okay guys, I forgot to add one tiny detail. The night before I was sorta very close with our mutual friend, we were dancing and holding hands. I have nothing for her and she's a very good friend of mine, so I hope it's okay for me to come forward about her friend :/ I mean, there might be a chance that our mutual friend told this girl about the night before, and if she did, it'll be harder than I initially thought
spiderowl Posted December 24, 2014 Posted December 24, 2014 Okay guys, I forgot to add one tiny detail. The night before I was sorta very close with our mutual friend, we were dancing and holding hands. I have nothing for her and she's a very good friend of mine, so I hope it's okay for me to come forward about her friend :/ I mean, there might be a chance that our mutual friend told this girl about the night before, and if she did, it'll be harder than I initially thought Does your mutual friend know there is nothing between her and you? If she has a crush on you and you are just seeing her as a friend, this is really awkward. Ideally, you'd find an independent way to get in touch with the new girl you are interested in.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 Advice needed. ( a ) Don't take her to see The Interview in a theater on Christmas Day. ( b ) lure her in with a small number of other flicks, and then, when it's time to make your move, invite her to your place to watch The Interview on YouTube. (She'll have an excuse to feel safer there)
Rydo Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 Contact her via facebook and ask her out for a drink... Simple
E-Squared Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 I once had this happen, and then the girl told me she had a boyfriend. At least I tried. 1
Haerts Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 Well, it looks like there was something going on between you and your mutual friend, even if it's not something big. If she has feelings for you, she's obviously going to get hurt by knowing you're interested on her friend. However, since you two have nothing, I suggest talking to that girl without mentioning her to your mutual friend. The best/easier way here is through Facebook, I suppose. You could take a look through her timeline before starting a conversation, see what kind of stuff she likes, check her instagram/pictures and try to find out places she likes to go, what kind of music she likes to listen to. Try to find things about herself that you could use in your favor and then start a conversation. Just be careful with what you're going to say, but start with a simple 'hi' and things will progress from that, if she's interested too - you'll find out as you talk to her. You can talk about music, hobbies, travelling... don't talk too much though, so you can have things to talk about when you meet IRL. I've gone through that once. I don't have the patience to wait for the guy to come after me, so I always go ahead if I know there's a spark. We were flirting with each other the entire night, he was there with some mutual friends. When I got home, I looked up his FB profile and added him. He messaged me right after. Two days after that he invited me to go out. We had a short "relationship", but that's how things started. Break the ice, say hi, get to talk a little to her before anything, then invite her out. It always works with me, though if it's someone I'm interested on, all they have to do is invite me and I sure will be there. hahaha
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