He wants me to pay my half

[smg15]

This is a good reason for not having dinner dates for a first date. But, don't pay it. He invited you, it's his dime. He sounds like on of the posters here . . . if you go on a first date with a man, you are committed

 

 

Exactly, coffee or something lite for a 1st date

[guest569]

Would you ever go first in paying the bill, and then let the guy reciprocate? I ask because there is an assumption amongst some women that it's a man's job to take care of the bills and them.

 

This is 2014 soon to be 2015....and hi-time some people start displaying some of those equality traits they've been asking for.

 

Here you are whining about having to splurge $40 on a first date (meanwhile us women have been fighting for basic human rights, a little bit more important, but never mind). If you can't afford to take someone out to dinner then don't. Don't fork out and then whinge about it.

 

I am with Smackie and think that the person who asks for the date should be paying. It's so rude to ask someone on a date, pick a place and then make them pay for it or even half. Let me guess, "men are always the ones who initiate dates because women expect so much of us" why bother if you hate women so much? Just become gay and get over it.

[Tayken]

Here you are whining about having to splurge $40 on a first date (meanwhile us women have been fighting for basic human rights, a little bit more important, but never mind). If you can't afford to take someone out to dinner then don't. Don't fork out and then whinge about it.

 

I am with Smackie and think that the person who asks for the date should be paying. It's so rude to ask someone on a date, pick a place and then make them pay for it or even half. Let me guess, "men are always the ones who initiate dates because women expect so much of us" why bother if you hate women so much? Just become gay and get over it.

 

 

Oh..you mean like minorities have been fighting for equality also and eradication of discrimination that still persists? Where did you hear me whinge about taking someone out?

 

I personally prefer to date strong / independent / well educated women that don't rely on a man to carry them i.e. I am not into scroungers if you know what I mean luv?

 

You want to talk about equality innit?

[smg15]

If a woman is showing interest and is considered dating material, I will seek other funding sources to pay for dates so I can keep seeing her lol

 

 

In the beginning it's the main funding source but if we hit it off then I will use the secondary and other funding sources

[Rydo]

Where are people taking their dates? Surely £100 on a night out isn't beyond the means of most people?

 

I prefer to pay when it's something like a dinner bill but generally it's just a few rounds of drinks and the taxi home. I would much rather pay for the first date especially, if I seem them again good if not I got to have a nice night out.

 

I doubt I would change that even if I had someone not want a second date.

[BluEyeL]

Would you ever go first in paying the bill, and then let the guy reciprocate? I ask because there is an assumption amongst some women that it's a man's job to take care of the bills and them.

 

This is 2014 soon to be 2015....and hi-time some people start displaying some of those equality traits they've been asking for.

 

I would if I was the one who made the invitation, but I never ask men on the first date. Sorry. I know you'd like it to be different but it is how it is and you can't control other people, you can only adapt yourself to reality rather than wishing other people were different. Just find the one that matches your style, or adjust your style to match the majority.

 

Personally, I'm still traditional regarding this. I really like a man who is courteous, a gentleman, brings me flowers, opens the doors, pays for dinner on the first date and is protective of me. I like to respond, be kind, be soft, happy, take care of him, find out his likes and dislikes, cook him his favorite foods, appreciate openly what he gives. I am in a serious relationship and I couldn't be happier. I have never had trouble dating and if I were single again, I'd do it the same way all over.

 

I understand this doesn't agree with you and you don't think it's "fair", but this is how it is. I'm not asking for any "equality" btw, I already have it in the work place and legally, so I'm good. I'm fine with traditional roles in the home, i.e. I'm fine with doing the cooking, while he's mowing the yard. I don't want to mow the yard while he's cooking.

[smg15]

I would if I was the one who made the invitation, but I never ask men on the first date. Sorry. I know you'd like it to be different but it is how it is and you can't control other people, you can only adapt yourself to reality rather than wishing other people were different. Just find the one that matches your style, or adjust your style to match the majority.

 

Personally, I'm still traditional regarding this. I really like a man who is courteous, a gentleman, brings me flowers, opens the doors, pays for dinner on the first date and is protective of me. I like to respond, be kind, be soft, happy, take care of him, find out his likes and dislikes, cook him his favorite foods, appreciate openly what he gives. I am in a serious relationship and I couldn't be happier. I have never had trouble dating and if I were single again, I'd do it the same way all over.

 

I understand this doesn't agree with you and you don't think it's "fair", but this is how it is. I'm not asking for any "equality" btw, I already have it in the work place and legally, so I'm good. I'm fine with traditional roles in the home, i.e. I'm fine with doing the cooking, while he's mowing the yard. I don't want to mow the yard while he's cooking.

 

when do you treat him the 3rd or 4th date?

[BluEyeL]

when do you treat him the 3rd or 4th date?

Fourth. And 50-50 thereafter.

[BluEyeL]

In fact, with one guy I had a 3 month relationship with, I made a picnic at the second date and I brought the food. So technically I treated him. But on average, 4th and beyond is when I come in with the paying or cooking.

[guest569]

Oh..you mean like minorities have been fighting for equality also and eradication of discrimination that still persists? Where did you hear me whinge about taking someone out?

 

I personally prefer to date strong / independent / well educated women that don't rely on a man to carry them i.e. I am not into scroungers if you know what I mean luv?

 

You want to talk about equality innit?

 

Yes, gender equality, luv. You have whinged the "inequality" of men having to pay to take women out all through this thread, darling.

 

Anyone would think these men don't WANT to date these women they have chosen to approach.

 

Anyway basically, same goes for me. I dont want a man who is too tight to pay for anything and wants a free ride.

[guest569]

Most educated, independent women are feminists. Pretty funny that you would go after such women being a woman hater.