Clearing mind or causing problems?

[Lightmetoday]

I recently realised one of my close friend has no feeling for me . I proposed her & she rejected saying we are friends. Months back this girl herself showed signs to me that she is intrested & have feelings for me , That made me grew my feelings for her & now i end up broken. I want to ask her why she showed her intrest in me earlier or should i not contact her? I want to clear my mind & ask her why she behaved in such a manner with me , First made my feelings grew & all of a sudden dumped me .

[erklat]

Romantic interest has its expiration date. You moved too slow and

she grew out of it.

[Light Breeze]

Is this the same girl you've been talking about in all your threads?

[Lightmetoday]

Ya the same girl. I want to talk with her seriously & explain her that her behaviour caused my old broken feelings to come to life, this time they grew way too stronger. I am loosing my mind, i gave her all my emotions & she dont care to even contact back when i am asking her to , If very hurting .

[smuggy95]

I don't think it's good to blame her wholly for how you felt and how you feel now. It's better, I think, to see your part in your pain and deal with it.

 

 

No one likes being blamed for someone else's feelings. Next time, if she shows interest again, why not be more direct and upfront from the start and say 'what do you want from this THIS time?"

[Lightmetoday]

True no one is to be blamed. I talked with her about my feelings & she said she dont have feelings, she said we cant be friends anymore, Feelings screwed friendship , But how could i remain friend with someone i have deep feelings for. It was a difficult job, I now feel both mental & physical pain in my heart. Its difficult , i miss her as friend, but i also regret why did i have so much feelings for her , I moved too slow , Finally all are my mistakes , it just deepens the pain more.