bluecat01 Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 He is 22 I'm 19 we have been going out for a few months. He has dated 5 times previously and says his only ever serious relationship was with his last ex, that lasted over 1.5 years (with some long distance). He was dumped around a year ago. I feel he does love me, he does a lot for me... but I feel it's just not enough. Not enough to be comparable to her. The first time we met I remember him telling me about his ex (albeit so did I, but he asked me first... and I was basically sounding all pissed off while he sounded a bit... nostalgic). As I got to know him better and over the course of us dating, I knew much more details. I knew how his mother wished they didn't broke up and was upset over their break up, and had gotten them a gift before. She even booked a hotel for them to travel. He bought her a ring, took her around for holidays, put pictures of them everywhere and don't delete them. They keep in touch. None of them that he has done for me, it makes me feel someone has just gotten there first and I will never be that special. I just get the feeling he doesn't appreciate me as much as he appreciates her, and that they as a couple have much less misunderstanding and fights than we do (though we do come from slightly different cultures). They are basically are a better couple. I feel stressed and want to break up so bad, any advice? I know its my insecurity but still. Because I mean, for a guy to take a girl home, he has got to be very, very serious. Though he has asked the same thing for me.
d0nnivain Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 You gotta get over your insecurities. Your relationship with him his different then his relationship with her. Different doesn't mean better or worse, just different. As you get older it will be highly unlikely that you will find somebody who hasn't dated & who hasn't fallen in love before. Make new memories with him. Go new places. Have different adventures together & stop comparing what he did in the past with the fact that he chose you in the present & possibly for the future.
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