How many times do you text or call a girl before giving up?

[DreamerDeceiver]

I have realized I have a hard time progressing into a second date with a girl.

First dates always end great; kissing, intimacy and beyond. But I don't understand why I have difficulty maintaining a second date from a girl.

 

I don't call or text incessantly, because I understand everyone has their own lives and giving eachother space is important. However it frustrates me when after I send a "thank you for a fun time tonight", and a reciprocal text back from her, it doesn't go anywhere. I really dig some of these girls I am meeting, and do want to see them again. So how many times do you text or call a girl before giving up? What I am doing now is:

 

(after meeting with them the previous night)

Day one: two calls several hours apart, then send a text.

Day two: silent

Day three: call again later in the afternoon, send a text again

Day four: silent

Day five: call later in the afternoon and text one more time and leave it be. (Am I giving up too early?)

 

Thank you for reading and for your support throughout the years.

[aggie382]

I have realized I have a hard time progressing into a second date with a girl.

First dates always end great; kissing, intimacy and beyond. But I don't understand why I have difficulty maintaining a second date from a girl.

 

I don't call or text incessantly, because I understand everyone has their own lives and giving eachother space is important. However it frustrates me when after I send a "thank you for a fun time tonight", and a reciprocal text back from her, it doesn't go anywhere. I really dig some of these girls I am meeting, and do want to see them again. So how many times do you text or call a girl before giving up? What I am doing now is:

 

(after meeting with them the previous night)

Day one: two calls several hours apart, then send a text.

Day two: silent

Day three: call again later in the afternoon, send a text again

Day four: silent

Day five: call later in the afternoon and text one more time and leave it be. (Am I giving up too early?)

 

Thank you for reading and for your support throughout the years.

 

Is that first day two calls and a text, that all go unanswered?

 

If so, that's too much right there.

 

After two unanswered contacts, you should be done. The first could be missed or forgotten about, so a second is warranted. But after that, it's a huge sign they're not interested.

[sillyanswer]

So how many times do you text or call a girl before giving up?

 

3, total, regardless of whether that's 3 calls or 3 texts or a combination. And, if I call I do leave messages (if the facility exists, which it almost always does in my experience). Sometimes less.

 

 

What I am doing now is:

I counted 7 things in that list.

(Am I giving up too early?)

 

No. You're hanging on too long. She got the first few messages just fine. Make sure those messages say that you had a good time, that you want to see her again, that she should get in touch with you etc etc and then you don't need to send 7 messages.

[Mrin]

I have realized I have a hard time progressing into a second date with a girl.

First dates always end great; kissing, intimacy and beyond.

 

Beyond? Like anal?

 

Sorry. Couldn't resist. Ya I think your problem is day 1 and beyond. Way too much contact. One call - and leave a vmail of she doesn't pick up telling her to call you.

 

If you don't hear anything by day 3 send a text and then if nothing, delete and move on.

[Dallers]

Once. In any situation. Nobody and I mean nobody deserves more than one message.

 

If they need to be chased to realise that they like you then they are not worth your time.

 

As soon as you feed someone attention they will just keep on until you have become boring and predictable.

[USMCHokie]

Once. In any situation. Nobody and I mean nobody deserves more than one message.

 

If they need to be chased to realise that they like you then they are not worth your time.

 

As soon as you feed someone attention they will just keep on until you have become boring and predictable.

 

Once for me as well.

 

If you flip the situation, would you ever not respond to a girl that you were genuinely interested in? No, I didn't think so.

[lino]

You're doing way too much. After 2 unanswered calls, the onus is 100% on her to re establish communication. If you don't hear back then, it's done and any future use for that girl should be for a*s and nothing more.

[E-Squared]

I remember something like this happened to me a year ago. I got a number from some girl at a merchandise stand at a conference that I went to. I gave it a day or two before I texted her. No response. I tried again with a two-day interval, and nothing again. I said "screw this." I deleted her off my phone after that.

[SomeDude16]

1 text 1 call spaced around 2 days like E-Squared said.