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It all began with Tinder....friends or lovers


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Hi, I have been separated over a year and close to finalizing my divorce. It should be final in about 2 weeks. About three month's ago I decided to join Tinder and find out what it was all about. I met this guy in September over coffee. The meet-up was really good. We went on a couple of dates and became intimate on the third date which was back in September. Since then we have become close...talking everyday, going to the movies...basically dating. Two months into dating around Thanksgiving we were talking about how my sis lives in NC in the mountains and he decided to say "Hey, why don't we take a trip to visit your sister" I was taken aback from this and was like OK. So we went on the trip and had a great time! However, on the ride back home I told him that I wanted to know why after spending so much time together, why had we only been intimate once? I wanted to know why and he said that it's because we hadn't seen each a lot more than he wanted and he felt disconnect and also he felt like I was putting up a wall. He also also said that he wanted to go on this trip because you really get to know someone better when you spend so much time together like on a road trip/Which I can see since I don't want to get hurt cause I really like him. So fast forward a month and we are spending more time together. However, we kiss each other hello and goodbye, some hand holding in the car. But, no sex when we are alone in his apartment. I am so confused and don't know what to think. Is he into me? Does he just want to be my friend?

 

P.S. since meeting him on Tinder I met a couple of other guys but found that Tinder was not for me and have since deactivated my account.

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Have you ever made the first move? Maybe you're both waiting for the other to initiate the next time...

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Funny you should mention that...i have thought about that and a couple of girlfriends have said the same thing. I guess I'm use to the guy always making the first move and initiating.

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Funny you should mention that...i have thought about that and a couple of girlfriends have said the same thing. I guess I'm use to the guy always making the first move and initiating.

 

Next time you're alone together, try it, if he accepts then there's no problem, if he doesn't then we can revisit :)

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