st8toftheheart Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Hi, What would you do if you found out your gf or so had been with other women? Its amazing how hypocritical we guys can be sometimes. As a guy (or atleast some guys) you always think that two women together is one of the sexiest things imaginable. And I'm sure some guys have, now and again, fantasized about their gf or so with another women, whether they are included in that fantasy or not. But when you find out its actually happened, you feel all freaked out about it. So how would you react if you found out that your gf or HAD actually been with other women? I have mixed emotions about it. Part of me is confused, even though I understand how/why it happened. I mean, am I so out of touch with the dating scene and the changes in sexual behavior? Not to mention because of the age gap between her and I, I feel out of the loop and so far removed from this type of thing. Yet, another part of me is completely turned on. Does that make me weird? Help me out here guys, as I feel like I'm losing my mind. I'm interested to know if anyone else has run into this...
WithOrWithoutYou Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 If it was in the past, before our relationship, I probably wouldn't care. As for if it was during the relationship, only you know the boundries that you and your GF set for your relationship. When did the sleeping with another woman happen? Did it happen when she was supposed to be being exclusive with you? If so, and she did not discuss it with you and/or you were not a part of it or ok with it, it's cheating. Now if you really don't care because it was another woman rather than another guy, well, I guess whatever you are comfortable with. As for what turns you on, whatever works. Different things turn different people on. Personally, I would be a little put out if a GF of mine slept with ANY other person behind my back if it was supposed to be an exclusive relationship, but different strokes I guess.
GirlDown Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 yeah i think it depends on the person. i don't consider myself bi-sexual, but once years ago, i was with a woman (in a one-night drunken thing, not a relationship) and my boyfriend loves to hear about...but would lose me in a heartbeat if i did it while i was with him. sex is sex, no matter who you have it with, according to him. and i guess i can't disagree with him, if i found out he was sleeping with other guys while he was with me (not that he ever would) i would not be with him. there seems to be a "two girls are okay" rule. i may agree with that, as i am more likely to be turned on by two females than two males. actually, i have zero attraction to males. but i can see his point and i honour it.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Originally posted by st8toftheheart What would you do if you found out your gf or so had been with other women? Are you meaning in general, or that she had been with them while you were a couple?
blind_otter Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 I had a year long relationship with a girl when I was younger. It was not a serious thing but I did feel like I loved her... when I tell guys they either don't care, think they can have a threesome, or they get freaked out and dump me. I guess those are pretty much all the alternatives, anyways. I think it is like having a problem with someone because of a past relationship. That sucks, I can't control the past...besides --- you love someone for who they ARE, not WHAT they are.
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