Still obsessed with my ex-girlfriend after 3 years :(

[jphcbpa]

what you felt for her is not love. it was anxiety

[Satu]

what you felt for her is not love. it was anxiety

 

With lots of Projective Identification.

[katlover]

The thread title was enough for me.. Man to man, all I have to say is, GET. OVER. HER. YOU. LITTLE. SISSY. 3 years is a LONG ****ing time to dread over some girl that has forgotten about you. I`m telling you for your own good. Be a ****ing man. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Humans are not designed to love one person. Especially since you are a man you shouldn`t. People cheat all the time know that. You will not learn from this unless you move on. I`m 23 and I`ve been cheated on. I moved on, learned from it, and became a better person. I`ve gone through many girls whom I had feelings for. It hurt me when we had to separate yes, but I didn`t let it consume me. Dude 3 years is a long time.. Please for your own good move on. Go find another girl.

 

Oh, and I read that you wanted to talk to her again. Don`t. She doesn`t feel the same about you man... It`s impossible to create chemistry that isn`t there no matter how hard you try. Just leave it, and go find another girl. Trust me, once you look for another girl you will EASILY forget about this one.

 

Good luck my man.

Edited December 24, 2014 by katlover

[santac]

The thread title was enough for me.. Man to man, all I have to say is, GET. OVER. HER. YOU. LITTLE. SISSY. 3 years is a LONG ****ing time to dread over some girl that has forgotten about you. I`m telling you for your own good. Be a ****ing man. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Humans are not designed to love one person. Especially since you are a man you shouldn`t. People cheat all the time know that. You will not learn from this unless you move on. I`m 23 and I`ve been cheated on. I moved on, learned from it, and became a better person. I`ve gone through many girls whom I had feelings for. It hurt me when we had to separate yes, but I didn`t let it consume me. Dude 3 years is a long time.. Please for your own good move on. Go find another girl.

 

Oh, and I read that you wanted to talk to her again. Don`t. She doesn`t feel the same about you man... It`s impossible to create chemistry that isn`t there no matter how hard you try. Just leave it, and go find another girl. Trust me, once you look for another girl you will EASILY forget about this one.

 

Good luck my man.

 

thanks man.. but the other girls I met didn't make me forget

i don' think i'ts about girls, i'ts about me.

 

And yeah 3 years is a long time... that's why I feel so ashamed.

Edited December 24, 2014 by santac

[Jimmyjackson]

Just convince yourself to not give a *****. Just relax, be laid back and things will happen man. The more value you place in yourself, the more likely you're going to attract women.