angered her

[meg1818]

I am a gay female. So a few months back my gf and I were having daily arguments about our long distance relationship, and how she had caught me in a few white lies. NO CHEATING. but lies because of all the fighting.

 

She has been stressing over school and asked me for some space,and that she couldn't handle it anymore. She pushed further and further away. Whenever I wanted to discuss things she said she was busy, or studying, whatever tp push me away. The more she pushed the more i wanted answers to where we stand. Was it over? are we on a break? she said we were friends, I didn't want that. She never clearly clarified to me our status, it all confused and angered me.

 

As time went on I pushed and pushed for answers I asked if she didnt see a future with me to please tell me. She just kept saying I cant handle this right now im in the middle of finals. So again what do i do i push and push, and said some really mean remarks to get a reaction out of her.

 

I got no reaction i just angered her more. I text harassed her and sent a letter till she finally answered. She said I angered her shes hurt and that I am selfish, mean, and rude. SHe told me she asked for space and I pushed her and pressured her. She then told me she doesn;t want to talk I am mean, and that she needs to heal alone.

 

My question is, is it over for good? I am her first love and first everything, but she has gone so cold, and so emotionless. I am backing away, but I don;t know if she'll come around

[zen2475]

I'm sorry you are going through this, but an important thing to remember is that when someone asks for space, you give them all the space they need. Continuing contact is disrespectful and will ultimately push the other person away.

 

I think the best thing now is to not contact and give it space and time.

[meg1818]

If I can do that do you think in time, she will contact me?