emma16 Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Ok I am going to sum this up fast. Dated a guy 22 his bosses daughter wanted to date him she is 18. I ahave just turned 26. So the boss and her got inbetween us and what do you know broke up. I was pregnant at the time. Ex and i had contact not one on one over the phone I lost the baby he was a big jerk about it didn't say antything just gave the unltra sound pics back to my brother at work. The problem is she ran into a male friend on mine at the bar and was asking him all these questions about me. Example what does he think of me? Is she dating anyone? Would he date me? Would he date her? Is the friend of mine mad because the two of them are dating now? I don't get this girl yeah this is her first boyfriend but she should not be concerned about me she got what she wanted to date him. She is an attention getter and gets what ever she wants let me tell yo I know this from my cousins and my brother working for her dad. I don't think he talks with her about me maybe he does I don't really know. My question is why is she so worried about me? Either the ex is getting bored becuase he spends every walking moment over there between work and well thats it pratically moved in there. I have seen with my own eyes that she doesn't get teh attention from him that I got he doesn't intiate things in public like small kisses. He spends his time bellyed up to the bar talking with her dad about work. I think she is being used for a promotion
laRubiaBonita Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 What is HER problem???? OMG!!! What is YOUR deal???? Why can't you use punctuation??? she is apparently pretty immature and up in your business....... but sooo are you, AND you are 8 years older!!!! moooove on, date someone older, hang out with older people, act YOUR age!!
Tamed Wildflower Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Why is she worried about you? Maybe she realizes she has probably hurt you. Even if she barely knows you, that's reason enough to worry about you. Maybe she just wants to know that you are alright, that you are moving on. Yes, she wanted him, but why is it so strange that she would worry about the well-being of others that she may have hurt in the process?? Maybe she's just nice. (Sure, not nice enough to lay off your ex-boyf, but emotions and actions can be complicated. People's behavior and emotions are not always consistent, especially when things get a little complicated.)
Author emma16 Posted March 24, 2005 Author Posted March 24, 2005 I would like to say she is a nice person. However, she never had a problem with me dating another guy that worked for her dad becuase she didn't like him that way. She is as you would call a "daddy's girl" if you work there or meet them in a bar their family needs to be the center of attention and you have to kiss they back side they won't come up to you and strike a conversation. AS for me moving on I will when I am ready I am enjoying spending time with my friends that I didn't get to while I was dating. Along with the fact that after everything i am not yet emotionally ready to bring someone else into my life. I would like to say she is a nice person I really, really, really would but the way her entire family acts like tehy are all twelve only care about #1. As for hanging around people my own age I have no clue as to why I attract younger men.
Tamed Wildflower Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Okay, how about this suggestion. Don't worry about this girl worrying about you. She's got her own mysterious reasons. You were dating a guy who ended up being a jerk to you in the end. He left you for this girl, and it seems like he never gave it a second thought. That's really insensitive. You suspect maybe he's seeing her only because he wants a promotion. That's shallow and devious. He was a jerk to you when you lost the baby. This had to be painful, and it sounds like he didn't even care. This level of callousness toward you is beyond appalling. It sounds like your greatest loss with this break-up is the possibility of being treated with more callous insensitivity in the future. Sure, there were some things about him that you really enjoyed, and he was really affectionate with you at times. He's not all-around a bad guy, or you wouldn't have dated him at all. But eventually you learned how insensitive he can be, and if I were you I would be thankful that you got out of this relationship. As for what it means to move on. Moving on doesn't necessarily mean jumping right into a new relationship. It just means moving on from this guy-- letting go of your feelings toward him, both your feelings of affection and attachment, and the resentful feelings that you must be feeling because of his actions. You're right, it is good to just take some time to yourself and your friends after a break-up. Otherwise you risk just latching onto the next guy that comes along not because you really like him, but because you are feeling needy and just want to latch on to someone. You have no clue why you attract younger men. How about why YOU are attracted to younger men? Just something to think about.
LoveOneAnother Posted March 27, 2005 Posted March 27, 2005 She knows that he isnt really interested in her. We can all sence when a person is genuine.
Author emma16 Posted March 29, 2005 Author Posted March 29, 2005 Tamed thanks for the advice. I feel I am moving on from him, or at least letting go of the feelings. Not reall suer about the ex if it was promotional reasons or not but he is living with the boss now and boss cosigned on a brand new truck for him. All I know is what goes around comes around. I am strarting to see him as teh young immature person he really is. As for why I am attracted to youngers guys. I am really not sure, I thinks its that fact that they bring outt the fun side of me once inawhile and I can let loose and have fun every now and then.
Tamed Wildflower Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 Glad to hear that you are moving on, Emma. Seems like this is definitely the right thing for you. Take some You Time-- baths, walks in the woods, good books, good times with your girlfriends, whatever you enjoy. As for your attraction to younger guys-- I am glad I asked you this question, cuz it looks like it gave you a chance to analyze yourself a little and understand your choices, which is always a good thing. You now realize that one thing that is really important to you in a romantic partner is his sense of fun. But remember that of course, the fact that someone is a little MORE MATURE doesn't necessarily make him any LESS FUN. So when you are ready to go back on the dating scene, look for maturity, responsibility, sensitivity, AND a sense of fun. Besides, 26 is not too old for youthful fun! I am sure there are a lot of fun guys who are 26 and older. Good luck.
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