skimo96 Posted December 21, 2014 Posted December 21, 2014 So I met this guy on tinder a few weeks ago and we really clicked. We live about an hour away and I made the drive to see him. We went to dinner with his friends and I spent the night at his house. We ended up snuggling and making out and such, which was totally fine. We text pretty often and he's planning to come see me at the beginning of next semester. We also have recently made plans to go to a concert together in February. My big question here, is should I tell my mom? She wants to know if I've been on any dates and such but it's not like I'm going to tell her "Yeah I have. I drove an hour to see him and ended up spending the night with him..." but I really feel bad for not telling her! I feel like I'm sneaking around, but at the same time I know she wont approve and will probably flip out. I want to keep seeing this guy, and chances are that I will. I just don't know if I should tell her and what the right way to do that would be. If anyone has any advice that would be awesome!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 21, 2014 Posted December 21, 2014 If I were you, I would wait until you have something to tell her about. Wait until you guys truly ARE a couple... and that means seeing one another regularly. In due TIME, it won't matter how/where you met this guy, but if you jump the gun and tell your mom now, and then he flakes-out on you for any reason, you've only compounded your problem. 1
Ebelskiver Posted December 21, 2014 Posted December 21, 2014 You're an adult now. Mommy doesn't have to know every little thing. And, though she may say otherwise, she really prefers not to anyway. Do tell friends, be smart, and when you are in an actual relationship, you can spring it on Ma.
Ann253 Posted December 21, 2014 Posted December 21, 2014 My daughter is in college. I love that she tells me when she meets guys. I love that we have that kind of open relationship. She keeps the details to herself (don't need to know about her staying the night) but she shares how she's feeling. She's recently started talking to a new guy, they made plans to go on a date when the get back from winter break, she even showed me a picture today. But what I really like, is that she feels comfortable talking to me.
d0nnivain Posted December 21, 2014 Posted December 21, 2014 Talk to your mom. She simply wants the best for you. She doesn't want all the sordid details but she definitely wants to know you are happy.
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