chicaboom Posted December 20, 2014 Posted December 20, 2014 Hey everyone, I've been seeing someone for almost two months and from previous posts you might remember that I said we've been moving VERY slow, which sort of frustrates me. We stil only see each other once a week on the weekend. He is not a texter but we've had conversations where I explain that I need a little more and he has explained he's introverted and shy and doesn't read ppl well so I am being patient and things are going pretty well. I'm still not 100% sure about him bc I'm not feeling a strong connection yet (we haven't slept together and the once a week thing is contributing to this). Anywyas yesterday he added me on fb which was extremely surprising given his personality and what he told me about himself. for all the introverts out there is this a big step? Lol adding me on fb...I was so shocked and probably reading way too much into this but could it be that he's actually finally opening up to me? does this mean anything? Lol
Gloria25 Posted December 20, 2014 Posted December 20, 2014 I see some people on FB with like 400 or 800 friends....that is nutz to me. I barely have 50 friends. Why? Cuz, I am not an attention ho, I do not use Facebook to "network" for jobs (that's why LinkedIn exists), and I do not take friendships - even the "virtual" ones lightly. I also realize the difference between "acquaintances" and actual "friends". I don't consider "acquaintances" at the same level as friends. And, I'm also a "private" person. I don't like people in my business and/or my home. In other words, if I added you on my FB, I really consider you someone I would like to be in contact with. So, I guess you gotta look at his page and see if he's just one of those people who "never met a stranger" or if he really wants you to get to know him. I never and will not add some guy I'm seeing as a "friend" to my Facebook page. IMO, makes it too complicated if we break up. I mean, I make public what I believe any guy who is considering or already dating me would need to see to get to know a little more about me. The day I add a guy to my FB, he would probably be someone I'm serious and see a longterm future with. 1
Author chicaboom Posted December 20, 2014 Author Posted December 20, 2014 Well I can't see any of his friends haha so i can't see how many friends he has. so once again he's being very private, your comment about adding someone to your fb only if you see something serious happening with them...that's what I'm wondering about this guy. He has been keeping me at arms length for 2 months, although being very consistent with dates and trying to make me happier when i said i needed more from him. So It was a shock that he added me on facebook. Anyways, just trying to guage what he thinks of me by adding me to fb.
Gloria25 Posted December 20, 2014 Posted December 20, 2014 Well I can't see any of his friends haha so i can't see how many friends he has. so once again he's being very private, your comment about adding someone to your fb only if you see something serious happening with them...that's what I'm wondering about this guy. He has been keeping me at arms length for 2 months, although being very consistent with dates and trying to make me happier when i said i needed more from him. So It was a shock that he added me on facebook. Anyways, just trying to guage what he thinks of me by adding me to fb. Oh, that's poopy... Why add you as a friend, then restrict certain things to you? I don't know about guys, but skank ho's who are juggling multiple guys seem to do that. Like they don't want one guy or the other to see what other guys are posting to her, certain pics of her with other guys, etc.
SpiralOut Posted December 20, 2014 Posted December 20, 2014 (edited) I'm very introverted and private. When I first started seeing my guy, it was once a week. I need my space. It was hard to start sharing my time with someone. After about a month we increased it. I now see him at least 3 times a week and we talk everyday. The facebook thing, I don't add someone on it unless I see them staying in my life. So that's probably a good sign that he added you. At some point he should make an effort to see you more often. Edited December 20, 2014 by SpiralOut 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 20, 2014 Posted December 20, 2014 I usually add or ask permission to add someone from Facebook that I've met at a Meetup. No biggie. Usually if I've met them in real life...I have no problem adding them or them adding me. Hey everyone, I've been seeing someone for almost two months and from previous posts you might remember that I said we've been moving VERY slow, which sort of frustrates me. We stil only see each other once a week on the weekend. He is not a texter but we've had conversations where I explain that I need a little more and he has explained he's introverted and shy and doesn't read ppl well so I am being patient and things are going pretty well. I'm still not 100% sure about him bc I'm not feeling a strong connection yet (we haven't slept together and the once a week thing is contributing to this). Anywyas yesterday he added me on fb which was extremely surprising given his personality and what he told me about himself. for all the introverts out there is this a big step? Lol adding me on fb...I was so shocked and probably reading way too much into this but could it be that he's actually finally opening up to me? does this mean anything? Lol
SmartDude Posted December 21, 2014 Posted December 21, 2014 The last thing you want is a giant pile of previously dated people in your friends list. Unless you just don't care. 1
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