Daniel'sWife Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 I am a loyal poster on LS. Have been posting for over a year now and found it when I was going through a difficult time in my life. I reply very frequently, but do not come up with new threads often anymore, because my own personal drama has dwindled down quite a bit. But every once in a while, I do...and I feel like if it is even remotely controversial...I get slammed and people get sidetracked before actually hearing what I have to say. Sometimes my own preference or my own situation is my situation. If I say I do not want my daughter to date out of my race (whatever my race might be - asian, black, white, middle eastern, etc.), I get called a racist without people bothering to understand that maybe my family has never done so...and the unknown scares me. If I mention that my husband wears the pants and how do I change that, people come out at me informing me it is the year 2005, and that I have equal rights. Yes, I know that. But maybe my husband has a strong personality and I am trying to deal with that. I am not telling anybody they are wrong, but I am saying that in the past I have felt attacked without people asking more questions about the situation first. Everyone's situation does not fit the ideal like we would like. DW
babybear Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 I think that when you are posting in an anonymous forum, nobody knows you enough to give you the benefit of the doubt all the time. They kinda have to respond to what they read...and when you read something, you don't always interpret it exactly how the writer wrote it. Nobody knows you, so I don't think the attacks are really personal.... Just my opinion... Babybear
Mr Spock Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Originally posted by Daniel'sWife I am a loyal poster on LS. Have been posting for over a year now and found it when I was going through a difficult time in my life. I reply very frequently, but do not come up with new threads often anymore, because my own personal drama has dwindled down quite a bit. But every once in a while, I do...and I feel like if it is even remotely controversial...I get slammed and people get sidetracked before actually hearing what I have to say. Sometimes my own preference or my own situation is my situation. If I say I do not want my daughter to date out of my race (whatever my race might be - asian, black, white, middle eastern, etc.), I get called a racist without people bothering to understand that maybe my family has never done so...and the unknown scares me. If I mention that my husband wears the pants and how do I change that, people come out at me informing me it is the year 2005, and that I have equal rights. Yes, I know that. But maybe my husband has a strong personality and I am trying to deal with that. I am not telling anybody they are wrong, but I am saying that in the past I have felt attacked without people asking more questions about the situation first. Everyone's situation does not fit the ideal like we would like. DW I think I remember your post...............was your step daughter or something dating a black man and you feared he would be a bad influence on your younger daughter?
bubblygrl5 Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock I think I remember your post...............was your step daughter or something dating a black man and you feared he would be a bad influence on your younger daughter? Oh yea...I think I remember that.... Stepfather's daughter wanted to move in or something....
moimeme Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 You personally are never 'attacked' . Nobody here can attack a person. They can namecall, yes, and that's a sort of attack but nobody knows you or your situation. Yes, your point of view may get 'attacked' but so what? Somebody disagrees with what you said. Happens to me all the time. That's ok. Everybody's different and thinks differently and if I'm spouting something someone thinks is BS, I appreciate it being challenged because it can cause me to re-examine my position to see if I have enough basis for keeping it. If you want to post stuff and never hear a contrary opinion, try one of those blogs and don't enable replies or comments and then you can say what you like and never know whether anyone disagrees.
Mr Spock Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 If this is the same person, she got jumped pretty hard...........
Beth Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Moderators try to keep an eye out for personal attacks, name calling, inappropriate remarks, etc. However, we don't read every post---we don't have time. Anytime you feel you have been attacked in a post, please use the Contact Us button on the bottom of the post to report it, and tell us why you feel the post was inappropriate. ALL reported posts are reviewed and if we need to edit verbal attacks, or delete posts which do not follow our guidelines, we will do so. That includes posts that have derailed a thread, even when the post itself is within our Guidelines. However, there is a fine line between a verbal attack and stating a differing opinion. Also, each person has a unique style of posting which can sometimes be perceived as an attack. This is, as mentioned, an open forum and differences of opinion are welcome.
Pocky Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Originally posted by Beth Also, each person has a unique style of posting which can sometimes be perceived as an attack. I probably fall into this category. I'm blunt. You can always ignore me. I won't take it personally.
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