Swipe Posted December 20, 2014 Posted December 20, 2014 I'm male, 20 and was in a relationship for 3 years with my girlfriend. About 10 days ago i broke up with her because i needed some space and wasn't sure of what i wanted in the future. For about a week after the break up i felt fine, not thinking about her too much and was happy with my decision. I think she didn't feel the same way I did and was pretty hurt. Anyways, about 3 days ago i started to notice that i really miss her. Yesterday some random guy who my ex had accepted on facebook (but doesn't personally know) sent me a message telling me that i wasn't good enough for her and that he was gonna get her no matter what. He told me he had been messaging my ex all the time and that he was gonna make sure that she'd fall for him and totally forget about me, almost threatening me (he's a bodybuilder and not ugly). I talked to her about it and she said she had blocked him, but was considering unblocking him again (he's kinda her type). Anyways for the past couple of days all i feel is despair. I can't concentrate on work, don't sleep well, i'm never hungry and just feel overwhelmingly sad and scared of the future. I don't know what to do. I don't want to get back together with her because i'm moving to australia for 6 months in january and i'm afraid of leaving her alone with guys trying to make her forget me and i'm afraid she might let herself be persuaded. What do i do? I know that i really love her and that she really loves me (or did at least). I admit i made a lot of mistakes, i wasn't the cute boyfriend and wasn't romantic enough with her (unlike the guy flirting with her on facebook). How can i get my life back and stop feeling this way? Any tips on how to proceed? I really need help! Thanks in advance!!
Gloria25 Posted December 20, 2014 Posted December 20, 2014 You're 20, I'm assuming she's around the same age... She will not be the last person you date. I say let it be, be thankful for the time you spent with her, but both of you need this time to grow, become independent adults. BTW, she and you will not be the same person at 20, 25, and 30. About wanting her cuz now some other guy is looking at her? People aren't our "property" you know. And yes, after a break up it is normal to miss that person. I mean, you spent a lot of time with them. Your "routine" included/revolved around them....that's not gonna be something you can shake in a few days.
acrosstheuniverse Posted December 20, 2014 Posted December 20, 2014 Go no contact with her, block her on facebook, delete her number, and I promise you'll start to move on. You don't want her back, so there's literally nothing to be gained by staying in touch and putting yourself through all of this. The less you know about what she's doing with other guys, the better. It's only been ten days, it's not been any time at all. You will start to feel better but you can expedite this easily be stopping all contact with her and focusing on your own life.
Author Swipe Posted December 21, 2014 Author Posted December 21, 2014 Thank you for your message! I really appreciate it!
ExpatInItaly Posted December 22, 2014 Posted December 22, 2014 Sorry to say, but she's well within her rights to "let" herself be pursuaded by other guys now. You broke up with her - what did you expect was going to happen? In order for you to proceed, go no contact.
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