PetitePixie Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 I'm gonna apologise in advance because this post is gonna be long. I've been hanging out with this guy for the last few week and I'm getting increasingly confused as to how he feels about me because while a lot of the "signs" are there he's not making a move. Bit of backstory: I've known him for about a year, we used to work together, at work we would flirt non-stop, go on lunch breaks together, he would give me lifts home if he was on the same shift. In the past 3 months we've grown closer as friends and since he left work we've been seeing each other on a fairly regular basis. When I say seeing each other I mean cinema, drinks or I go round at is which ends up with me staying the night. When we go out he's the perfect gentleman, he tries to pay for everything I have to literally run to the cashier to get a round of drinks in, he holds the door open for me, guides me trough crowds, etc etc... When I go round at is a "couple of hours" watching movies turns into "the whole night" and I end up sleeping with him in is bed. He will lie right next to me is whole body contoured round mine, hand around my waist, chin resting on my collar bone. He will reach under my top, massage my back, kiss my neck and ears, touch my boobs and ass, grip my hair, run is hands all over my body but we've not had sex and he's not kissed me on the lips! Now don't get me wrong it's lovely for a change that a bloke doesn't wanna sleep with you the second your in their bed but I've handed myself on a plate to him on a couple of occasions and he's not taking the bait! It's incredibly frustrating too because what he is doing to me is getting me all hot and bothered but there's no release. I'm having real trouble controlling myself and have to exercise every bit of self restraint so as to prevent myself from ripping his clothes off! It's torture!!! Correct me if I'm wrong but "just friends" don't behave this way do they? I mean I have other male friends who wouldn't dream of sharing a bed with me let alone touch me, if I staid the night at theirs I would be put up in the spare room or I would sleep on the sofa or something. But if he "likes me" why his he not making more of a move? I have work colleague's who have said he likes me, treats me completely differently to the way he treats other girls. He came into work the other day to say hello and have a quick chat and a new woman I work with who hadn't met him before he left our workplace, waited till he'd gone and then proceeded to ask me who he was. When I replied "a friend" she said "just a friend? Because there was an heck of a lot of chemistry and tension going on there" My manager knows him quite well and she's said that he likes me but he's being respectful and taking it slow. I'm confused what the heck is going on?
Poppyolive Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 If someone else put this post up and you read it, what would you think? Obviously, reading exactly what you wrote, sounds like he is interested. But perhaps awkward. Are you showing signs of liking him?? Why don't you kiss him? Enjoy this time. Its pretty magical.
Author PetitePixie Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 If someone else put this post up and you read it, what would you think? Obviously, reading exactly what you wrote, sounds like he is interested. But perhaps awkward. Are you showing signs of liking him?? Why don't you kiss him? Enjoy this time. Its pretty magical. If I was reading this and it was put up by someone else I'd be thinking "he likes you" But he's not the shy type of guy so if he liked me I think he would have told me by now. I wanna kiss him but I'm afraid that if I do and he doesn't feel the same way then I'll loose him as a friend.
Shining One Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 I end up sleeping with him in is bed. He will lie right next to me is whole body contoured round mine, hand around my waist, chin resting on my collar bone. He will reach under my top, massage my back, kiss my neck and ears, touch my boobs and ass, grip my hair, run is hands all over my body but we've not had sex and he's not kissed me on the lips! Now don't get me wrong it's lovely for a change that a bloke doesn't wanna sleep with you the second your in their bed but I've handed myself on a plate to him on a couple of occasions and he's not taking the bait! It's incredibly frustrating too because what he is doing to me is getting me all hot and bothered but there's no release. I'm having real trouble controlling myself and have to exercise every bit of self restraint so as to prevent myself from ripping his clothes off! It's torture!!!This has already happened... I wanna kiss him but I'm afraid that if I do and he doesn't feel the same way then I'll loose him as a friend.... and you're afraid of this? You're already past kissing. Make a move!
todreaminblue Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 friends dont do this......i would say he likes you.....what you described was pretty hot on the going slow scale...meaning not really slow at all......deb
Author PetitePixie Posted December 19, 2014 Author Posted December 19, 2014 This has already happened... ... and you're afraid of this? You're already past kissing. Make a move! I've actually never thought about it this way but you bring up an excellent point.
Author PetitePixie Posted December 19, 2014 Author Posted December 19, 2014 friends dont do this......i would say he likes you.....what you described was pretty hot on the going slow scale...meaning not really slow at all......deb I'm potentially seeing him again this weekend, I think it's time I took charge, lol 4
Perrier Posted December 19, 2014 Posted December 19, 2014 Well good luck. Leave him lots of room to come in and 'take charge' though, as guys like to lead the first time in these things
Author PetitePixie Posted December 19, 2014 Author Posted December 19, 2014 Well good luck. Leave him lots of room to come in and 'take charge' though, as guys like to lead the first time in these things I think if I wait for him to "take charge" I'll be waiting a while.
soyou Posted December 19, 2014 Posted December 19, 2014 I think your guy may be very shy in the bed room or nervous about his sex performance..... I was dating a guy for 3-4 weeks, he could stay over, wecould kiss, hug, cuddle etc but he never made any further move. I was very frustrated!!! Later I found out that he had ejection problem, couldnt last longer than 2mins. End of our dating story :love:
Author PetitePixie Posted December 19, 2014 Author Posted December 19, 2014 I think your guy may be very shy in the bed room or nervous about his sex performance..... I was dating a guy for 3-4 weeks, he could stay over, wecould kiss, hug, cuddle etc but he never made any further move. I was very frustrated!!! Later I found out that he had ejection problem, couldnt last longer than 2mins. End of our dating story :love: He's not shy in the bedroom, I'm 100% sure of that. I almost feel like he's making me wait on purpose so I get all worked up and want him more! Last time we where in bed together I felt like I was going to go further and then it kinda didn't but he knew he was getting me all hot and bothered and I could tell that he was having and "hard" time keeping is cool. My manager said to me "don't worry, it will happen but he doesn't want to rush things because then he might give you the impression that all he wants is sex"
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