Soundstick Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Hello everyone. Quick question here. Guy and Girl A have long time feelings for each other (long distance, 500 miles). Guy ends up dating someone else for a few years. This hurts Girl A. Relationship ends. Few months later, they decide to rebuild a friendship, both knowing they love each other. No promises of it leading anywhere for a relationship in the future, but at least want friendship back to where it was. Before Guy and Girl A talked about rebuilding a friendship, he went on 2 dates with Girl B (don't talk/text often, both busy, but there is mutual interest). Is it wrong for the guy to go on a date with Girl B (hookup also if the opportunity presents itself)? Sure, he wants things to work out in the long run for Girl A, but right now he's essentially "friendzoned". I guess this could also be generalized... is it okay to go on a date or hook up with another girl knowing you want things to work out with Girl A. Guy is not actively pursuing dating, but if the opportunity presents itself, why not go on a date. I should also mention Girl A's parents mentioned that she still loves and has been the only serious guy in her life. Guy and Girl A have never officially dated, just a long distance "thing" for several years.
Redhead14 Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Hello everyone. Quick question here. Guy and Girl A have long time feelings for each other (long distance, 500 miles). Guy ends up dating someone else for a few years. This hurts Girl A. Relationship ends. Few months later, they decide to rebuild a friendship, both knowing they love each other. No promises of it leading anywhere for a relationship in the future, but at least want friendship back to where it was. Before Guy and Girl A talked about rebuilding a friendship, he went on 2 dates with Girl B (don't talk/text often, both busy, but there is mutual interest). Is it wrong for the guy to go on a date with Girl B (hookup also if the opportunity presents itself)? Sure, he wants things to work out in the long run for Girl A, but right now he's essentially "friendzoned". I guess this could also be generalized... is it okay to go on a date or hook up with another girl knowing you want things to work out with Girl A. Guy is not actively pursuing dating, but if the opportunity presents itself, why not go on a date. I should also mention Girl A's parents mentioned that she still loves and has been the only serious guy in her life. Guy and Girl A have never officially dated, just a long distance "thing" for several years. Unless you and Girl A have declared exclusivity, you are free to date others, but I wouldn't sleep with them. If you sleep with someone else, it's likely you really don't care as much for Girl A as you had thought and should just keep it as a friendship.
Author Soundstick Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 (edited) Unless you and Girl A have declared exclusivity, you are free to date others, but I wouldn't sleep with them. If you sleep with someone else, it's likely you really don't care as much for Girl A as you had thought and should just keep it as a friendship. Understood. Those were my thoughts as well. I should also mention when I referenced 'hooking up', I was implying making out and maybe a bit more; for me, sex is off the table. I get too attached when sex is thrown into the mix of things (at least I used to). (fwiw, girl A and I never have had sex before, we've only made out before) Edited December 18, 2014 by Soundstick
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