DepressedWaiting Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Same here, mine MM is 20 years older than me. He is 45. I have always always always liked older men only and couldn't imagine being with someone who isn't at least 12 yrs older than I am. But I do wonder what would it be like when I am 50 yrs old and he will be 70... I think around then it won't be nearly as appealing as it is now. I don't know if I'm going to want to be with a 70 yr old man when I am only 50... I more than likely won't even get the chance to find out if you know what I mean... Michael Douglas and Catherina Zeta Jones seem to do doing pretty good.
Author Marie1973 Posted May 3, 2005 Author Posted May 3, 2005 Hi DepressedWaiting- Seems like we are in the same situation. I had issues with the age gap when it first started, but as time went on, it made me realize that i rather have 5, 10 years with my man than 30 years with anyone else. When I'm 50, i won't mind him being 70. I will love him just as much if not more. Age has nothing to do with us anymore. I am just so happy that i found such a strong love that we have. I have never been treated so wonderful in my entire life. & there is no way that i'd give it up for a number. You have to live for today, not 25 years from now. If u have your man for 25 years you should feel so blessed. Life could be cruel. Let me tell u a little story that might make u open your eyes. My OM has a cousin who is 40 she has a boyfriend now for years that is 20 years older than she is. She was just diagnosed with colon cancer & she is the one that is walking around with one of those bags, while her 60ish boyfriend is healthy as can be. I will love every wrinkle my older man gets. But like u said, maybe it won't even happen ;-) Live for today!!
DepressedWaiting Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Yes, it does look like we have some similarities in the situation we are in The age gap actually does not really bother me, I have always liked older men only. Right now it is perfect...20 years from now it would still be perfect... I was just pondering even further into the future than that but it's a bit silly to look that far ahead into the future anyhow. That is too far ahead. I actually got diagnosed with multiple sclerosis two years ago so I don't even want to think about what I will be like or what this disease is going to do to me 20 years from now. Right now I am in perfect health and not affected by it. I try not to think about it at all. It scares me a lot My MM actually has crohn's disease. Both horrible diseases. Both him and I got dealt bad cards in life
Author Marie1973 Posted May 3, 2005 Author Posted May 3, 2005 DepressedWaiting- OMG i am sooooooooo sorry to hear that. You got got dealt a bad hand of cards huh. Yes, u have to live day by day not decade by decade ahha. I'm sure the both of u will take care of each other. Hopefully we both will get to be with our men, if u know what i mean.
aklost101 Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 i have no Freudian-issues with either my father or grandfather. i'v always dated people in my age group- this is the first time i've ever been involved with someone older. i have friends my own age and always have, but i've also always gravitated towards the adults in the room (teachers, parents, etc). i've been teased about how i disliked people my own age; growing up i always thought kids talked about the stupidest things and were always over-reacting and, well, childish, while adults' conversations has points and they talked about things that mattered. MM was eager to point this out to me when we met... he noticed instantaneously how comfortable i was around him. we have more in common and are able to converse about things the majority of my other friends couldn't care less about, if they've even bothered to hear about/pay attention to them.
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