cmack90 Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 I am a 23 year old male with a good head on my shoulders looking to start my career. I've been to college and am currently working PT until I can finish up some training I need in order to fulfill my dream job. There is a 37 year old woman I work with who is really hot for me and I find her pretty damn attractive. I found out that she enjoys skeet shooting and she invited me to her farm to "shoot". She told me that she is separated and will be divorced soon. She gave me her number last Saturday without me even asking and she keeps dropping hints about us "hanging out". She even offered to take me to an NFL game to watch my favorite team play. On top of that, she saved me a seat at our company Christmas party and brought her son to work one day to meet me. Oh yea, she has two kids. (10 and 14). This woman is close friends with a lot of men who already work I'm the field that I am looking to enter. I have not contacted her yet. I want to but feel like us beginning to text/talk on phone/hangout could potentially backfire big time. Should I run, or am I overreating?
Assada Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 first of all, what will you be running from? If you want to go out with this woman you should be sure her divorce is final.
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 Backfire how? Do you think she'll ruin your reputation in your industry? That would most likely happen if you were rude to her. At this point, I think you can safely go skeet shooting with her to find out what her expectations are. If she wants a more intimate relationship but you are not sure, tell her you would rather not date a co-worker. (But then you can't date anybody else in your company either)
venusishername Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 (edited) I am a 23 year old male with a good head on my shoulders looking to start my career. I've been to college and am currently working PT until I can finish up some training I need in order to fulfill my dream job. There is a 37 year old woman I work with who is really hot for me and I find her pretty damn attractive. I found out that she enjoys skeet shooting and she invited me to her farm to "shoot". She told me that she is separated and will be divorced soon. She gave me her number last Saturday without me even asking and she keeps dropping hints about us "hanging out". She even offered to take me to an NFL game to watch my favorite team play. On top of that, she saved me a seat at our company Christmas party and brought her son to work one day to meet me. Oh yea, she has two kids. (10 and 14). This woman is close friends with a lot of men who already work I'm the field that I am looking to enter. I have not contacted her yet. I want to but feel like us beginning to text/talk on phone/hangout could potentially backfire big time. Should I run, or am I overreating? I think you should trust your gut instinct to run. She is making her intentions quite clear and there's no need to inquire. The fact alone that she's tight with men in your field you are looking to enter... if it goes awry, this is your career that might be affected. I am 30, and I would never date a 23 year old guy. If I even WERE to consider it, it would only be for a roll in the hay. Probably only once at that. She's not divorced. That alone tells me to run. You want a jealous husband after you?? Plus, two kids? Nothing wrong with kids, but dude, you don't need this baggage. I'm sure most men here would say 'go for it' but if you work together?? No. If you had the opportunity to have a quick fling and never see her again, I'd say what the hell. But in this case, I think it's too risky and close for comfort. Edited December 17, 2014 by venusishername
Mirages Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 One thing that would make me feel awkward is knowing that my age (you) is closer to her son's than to her. A near aged teenager who is rogue, large, and plays football may likely play you too, seeing you as a slightly older kid. Or he could be a good kid...
bathtub-row Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 While you have a good head on your shoulders, she is apparently a complete numbskull. Introducing you to her kids?? This relationship really has nowhere to go and she obviously doesn't understand boundaries or limits. I'd run for the hills, if I were you.
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