enchanted771 Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 Is it really necessary to play all these dating games. I am a straight shooter. I know you have to play it somewhat cool in the beginning and let the guy do most of the work, but do you have to act like a cold fish? I talked to this guy for almost 3 weeks and then we met up for a date that lasted 6 hours. We hit it off and we met up for another date 3 days later for a couple hours. He tells me he likes me and I told him I like him too. Then someone tells me that if he tells me he likes me that I should just say " thank you that's nice" that just seems so cold and uninterested to me. Am I wrong? Then my friend says once I act interested, its over. Really? so I have to act uninterested to get his attention? I know I cant act too eager yet, but do I really have to act like that. He is a straight shooter, and he does not like fake people and he is a realist. Were also both in our 40's.. Please advise. I don't know if people are just haters or what. I did not take her advise and the guy still seems interested...hmmm
deathandtaxes Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 Expressing mutual interest in each other is awesome!! If you want something, go for it! If it scares them off, then they're just not for you. They're going to be incompatible to your assertiveness. 2
Gaeta Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 Be yourself, if you are interested then act interested, if you are not then tell him good bye good luck. In our 40s we know what we want. If he's into you he's not going to lose interest just cause you showed interest, your friend has limited and immature way of looking at relationships. About straight shooters. Every man I met that self-claimed being straight shooters were nothing close to it when came time to deliver. Be yourself, be honest about who you are, enjoy yourself but at the beginning like this put yourself on observation mode. Don't take anything for granted. 2
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 You're fine. The games are a function of immaturity. At 40 if you can't say I like you too back to someone you have issues. Be yourself. You don't have to declare your undying love for somebody in the 1st month but it's fine to express a desire to continue dating. 1
Author enchanted771 Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 You're fine. The games are a function of immaturity. At 40 if you can't say I like you too back to someone you have issues. Be yourself. You don't have to declare your undying love for somebody in the 1st month but it's fine to express a desire to continue dating. Thanks guys I thought so. I am not going to be a cold person, so if I me saying I like him back will make him lose interest then goodbye and I will just stay single if that's what it means. 1
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