Try Posted December 22, 2014 Posted December 22, 2014 (edited) So I'm married, have 2 small kids and have been sleeping with a married man who also has 2 young kids on and off for last 5 years. We met in work, I wouldn't even call it a proper affair as we don't communicate regularly, I'd say we have slept together less than 10 times in 5 years. I managed to not have sex with him the last 2 years, although we did have the odd kiss in that time. I had my 2nd child a year ago my husband has no idea, the problem is I'm not in love with him anymore and don't really want sex with him, I just do it to keep him happy. So you started this affair before you had one if not both of your small children with your husband? If you do not have feelings for your husband such that you "don't really want sex with him", why did you stay in the marriage and have kids with him? Doing this was not just unfair to your husband, but unfair to your children. Edited December 22, 2014 by Try 1
maaz3231 Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 You should tell him so he can decide what he wants to do with his life. You talk about things he did that made you lose respect for him. What about what you are doing? Usually, a person who is cheating will not only lose respect from their SO, but also from many different family members and friends. My opinion is that you should fess up, allow yourself and him to decide if the relationship is worth it or not, then perform whatever actions are necessary. 1
absentpresence Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 To the OP. Read my story. All of it. I almost thought you were my wife posting and my stomach sank reading your comments. To be completely honest, if you have any respect for your husband, if you care about his happiness at all or your children's happiness, you need to tell your husband that you are no longer in love with him. He deserves to be happy, not humiliated. Read my post and I sincerely hope you gain a new perspective from the other end of your affair and the consequences of living a lie. Feel free to message me if you really want to know what I am going through because of this type of behavior. Best of luck to you.
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