greenergal2003 Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 well hummm mu husband begged me for a 3som for 2 years and i finially gave in we chose a close friend whom we knew well and well things were different during that time he gave her more time attention, more we ll everyhing i felt as if i shoud have not even been there. and now were home and well our sex is well lets say a lot to be desired there is no passion no holding i have told him how i feel and it is as if he is not even listening to me he blames it on the fact we live with my aging parents and that does put a strain on our relationship, im just so sad no i dont know what to do please help me...........
Elise Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 you should tell your husband exactly how you feel. communication is key. 3somes are a bad idea most of the time because of the attention factor. sorry
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 It sounds like in your case, the 3some wasn't meant to be a sharing experience. It was meant as an excuse for him to sleep with someone else, with your 'permission'. You'll definitely want to let him know how you feel. Be prepared for him to throw it in your face that you "agreed to it." He'll do pretty much anything to make it look like you are in the wrong in this situation. Something needs to be fixed - and if he isn't willing to fix it, are you willing to stay in this broken relationship? If it comes down to it, give him a choice: marriage counseling or a separation/divorce.
Moose Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 That was a bad idea, and now the damage has been done. I'm afraid that most of the time when a third party is introduced into that area of a marriage, the damage is irreversable. Some still make the marriage work, and some give up. The ones that do make it work most of the time end up stronger, and more solid. But the chances of that happening is slim. I've had the opportunity presented to me by Mrs. Moose, (She's bi-curious), and I refused just because I've seen the damage it can do. Whether or not she decides to something behind my back is up to her, but she knows the consequences, (from me and God), if she does and I find out. I hope you two can work things out, and I would suggest to NEVER do this again!
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