Spartan040 Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 I was texting a girl that I know, and the subject of sex and relationships came up and I told her I was 17 and still a virgin, and that all I'd ever done was kiss a girl (her, actually). She said "Really? I'm sorry but a guy your age should have at least done something besides kissing by now," which made me really pissed off and I stopped talking to her. But it kind of struck a nerve and I started wondering if she was right. Do most girls think like this or is she just an immature bitch?
neowulf Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 I was texting a girl that I know, and the subject of sex and relationships came up and I told her I was 17 and still a virgin, and that all I'd ever done was kiss a girl (her, actually). She said "Really? I'm sorry but a guy your age should have at least done something besides kissing by now," which made me really pissed off and I stopped talking to her. But it kind of struck a nerve and I started wondering if she was right. Do most girls think like this or is she just an immature bitch? She's not comfortable with your level of experience. Her loss. Some girls won't care about your level of experience. Some will. Best to try and not take it personally. It's just personal preference. No different to "I prefer blondes to brunettes". For the record, most of my friends lost their virginity between 16-18, so you're hardly abnormal. Oh and referring to her as "an immature bitch" probably doesn't speak highly of your own maturity level. Just saying.
Jules Dash Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 Oh and referring to her as "an immature bitch" probably doesn't speak highly of your own maturity level. Just saying. Well it sounds like they're both are in high school. The maturity level is understandable.
Author Spartan040 Posted December 17, 2014 Author Posted December 17, 2014 She's not comfortable with your level of experience. Her loss. Some girls won't care about your level of experience. Some will. Best to try and not take it personally. It's just personal preference. No different to "I prefer blondes to brunettes". For the record, most of my friends lost their virginity between 16-18, so you're hardly abnormal. Oh and referring to her as "an immature bitch" probably doesn't speak highly of your own maturity level. Just saying. Well, I did take it personally because she later told me she thought it was lame as hell and that I was a loser, and she's done other things like this in the past. I gave her too many chances. So yeah, in my mind she's an immature bitch.
SomeDude16 Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 First off, never use the word "bitch" when describing a woman....ever. Its disrespectful and makes you look like the immature one. On to your question: Its not a big deal that all you have done at your age is kiss a girl. There is a common misconception that everyone loses their virginity at a young age but that is simply not the case. Don't be worried about it, when you're ready you're ready. I will tell you that when your talking about something such as sex with another person, only talk about it with people you trust comfortably. Personally, my advice would be to avoid the subject of virginity until after sex, then if you feel inclined to discuss it feel free. People these days act like sex and sexual experience is some extremely difficult and godly trait that only the genetically gifted can preform, when in fact its not difficult and nothing to be worried about. Let it come naturally and live your life. 2
Danda Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 How do you even know this girl? Why were you discussing your sexual history with her, and via texting?
Hopes Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 Sucks man. Own that **** and be proud about it. I had told a girl no once because I wanted to sleep with someone I really liked. Despite my non-whoreness, I still had a girlfriend judge me for sleeping with 8 girls before her. Some women want a man with excessive experience, some want a man who isn't "dirty" as I think the word I was called. Also, don't call a woman a bitch. I mean ****, think the hell out of it. A lot of girls will judge you if you call another girl a bitch or something. Ever see James Bond call a women a bad name? Or pretty much any Don Juan in movies is of the utmost respectful towards women, because that is what pimpin really looks like. 1
Toodaloo Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 First off, never use the word "bitch" when describing a woman....ever. Its disrespectful and makes you look like the immature one. On to your question: Its not a big deal that all you have done at your age is kiss a girl. There is a common misconception that everyone loses their virginity at a young age but that is simply not the case. Don't be worried about it, when you're ready you're ready. I will tell you that when your talking about something such as sex with another person, only talk about it with people you trust comfortably. Personally, my advice would be to avoid the subject of virginity until after sex, then if you feel inclined to discuss it feel free. People these days act like sex and sexual experience is some extremely difficult and godly trait that only the genetically gifted can preform, when in fact its not difficult and nothing to be worried about. Let it come naturally and live your life. Read and pay attention to this. Its no big deal. You are only 17. I know people who didn't kiss a girl until they were well into their 20's. Everyone is different and everyone goes at a different pace. That said, this girl has been very disrespectful and demeaning so call it off and leave her alone. Act with a little dignity and quit the name calling though eh? The only person that reflects badly upon is you. The girls who are interested in you will hear about it and it will put them off. 1
bachdude Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 Well, I did take it personally because she later told me she thought it was lame as hell and that I was a loser, and she's done other things like this in the past. I gave her too many chances. So yeah, in my mind she's an immature bitch. Maybe replace the phrase "immature bitch" with "abusive", because that is what her comments are, abusive. I would stay away from her because of this. Have the self respect to not be the object of someone else's abusive language. If it happens again, just walk away. My guess is her conscience was pricked by the fact that you have little experience sexually and she has quite a bit. Maybe she felt "cheap" and then to make herself feel better she felt she had to put you down. So don't follow her pattern, to make yourself feel better by putting her down with name calling. Don't return abuse with abuse. Return abuse with self respect. Rise above it. 1
Assada Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 She's saying this to test you. Just to see if you get mad about it. What you do is, you stay centered.You something like. "Its good that you have enough experience for the both of us" Confidence is the name of the game
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