spanishchick00 Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 There has been times when on a first date, my date and I would eat at a restaurant and usually the waitress will start "chatting" up with my date-by making jokes and he starts making jokes and they start laughing. Then my date tells me later that she probably wants a tip. Um Hello. Sometimes when I go to a restaurant the waiters never "flirt" with me or starts laughing up a storm/asking me questions about me, etc, etc. Are they flirting or just being friendly?
Danda Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 Unless your appearance is that of super lesbian stereotypes, why would a waitress flirt with you to get extra tip money? 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 Some waitresses do flirt with customers to get better tips, but even still, it'd be weird for one to do so if the guy is with a woman or clearly on a date. As a waitress, it's your job to be friendly and amiable so what you might be thinking is flirting could very well be no more than a woman doing her job. Especially if you feel this kind of thing has happened to you with any regularity. I know when I worked in a restaurant whenever I came across a couple I actually made a point to be extra friendly towards the women. As a matter of fact, I tended to act like the guy didn't exist and basically spoke primarily to the woman. If I made jokes they were exchanged with her, etc. In hindsight this was probably a bit rude to be honest but I never wanted my friendly demeanor to be misconstrued as "flirtation".
Diezel Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 And you secretly love it, even though you hate it.
most_distant_galaxy Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 (edited) Yes, I've had a waitress flirt with a boyfriend. She would talk to him in his native language and when I tried to participate she ignored me! It was obvious she was flirting! I wanted to throw my drink to her face But I've also met waitresses that were friendly with both me and my date. This is very nice and I always give a better tip because I think they go the extra mile to do their job well. Edited December 17, 2014 by most_distant_galaxy
Lernaean_Hydra Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 More often than not, the guy pays. No reason to use a lot of charm on the ladies. Waitresses need the guy to like them, not his date. Honestly you'd think this would be the case but in my experience, you actually do need to win over the lady rather than the guy. Some of the most generous tips I ever received were from couples where then woman appeared to be really pleased with my service. Flirting or being overly-friendly with accompanied male patrons is obnoxious and leads to tension. Being attentive to the woman often leads to her encouraging her partner (if he's paying) to leave a larger tip. I've witnessed this first hand (while out with couples, not merely as a server)
Author spanishchick00 Posted December 17, 2014 Author Posted December 17, 2014 So, the rule only applies when waitresses see "couples." They take advantage of that? Because when I go out to eat with family, the guy waiters don't bother on flirting with me.
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