Author Omei Posted December 17, 2014 Author Posted December 17, 2014 Yes it's completely true,I'm always suprised by the guys I reply to,I had this one guy who wouldn't stop emailing me he was really handsome (well alot of women I imagine would have thought so) but he just wasn't my type. I remember going crazy for this one guy on OLD I think many women would have rated him a 5 or something,to me he was just out of this world something about his gaze or face,just Arggh I still think of his face. I remember a face I saw long ago but he never talked to me, he was like in his twenties or something but he looked like 17 year old he looked like a really young River Phoenix I wish he talked to me he was so mmmm mmm So I know what you mean about people leaving a image in your brain 1
elaine567 Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 One of the funniest guys I know is single. Women like good looking guys, funny is just a bonus. He may be funny to you... 1
Author Omei Posted December 17, 2014 Author Posted December 17, 2014 I find the level of sex questions on OKC disturbing, Lol I like sex but I don't want to share with the world my every preference haha I am skipping some that are just lol 1
Author Omei Posted December 17, 2014 Author Posted December 17, 2014 All the talk from the ladies proves what we already knew. Looks are a must have, humor is a nice to have, being able to write coherently means little, and being nice, if you're perceived as too nice it's a negative. Men don't date woman they find unattractive, actually in my experience not only will they not date woman they don't find hot they take it to the next level and often scoff or make fun about what they find unattractive with their friends. We could go back and forth on this matter all day the fact is BOTH men and woman find looks important as they should if they want a intimate partner anyone who can't see this clearly is somewhat in a sense of denial unable to accept they may not be attractive to every person. 2
Author Omei Posted December 17, 2014 Author Posted December 17, 2014 So im still working on my two profiles And im just flipping through here and there and I come across this man... Late at night when im in bed, bored and can't sleep I have a hobby where I will look at all the craiglist ads something about reading peoples dirty desires amuses me. Anyway there is always a man who makes many many various posts for a lay and he always posts a picture of his hairy chest, I **** you not I came across that hairy chest picture in POF lol so now I know who he is. That is an epic fail
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Good points. When I actually DO get a woman to meet me FACE to FACE from online, it usually happens with the frequency of no more than 2 times a year...I think I had a good 5 women in one year at one time, but that's it. Those who claim they get 10 dates every few weeks, it must be the geography or something. Basically, yeah. This is why I always chime in on the threads where people give OLD advice to men. It's all lies. Initial message, changing profile, all nonsense. Pics are all that matters. Funny and interesting might get you a reply, but dates are a different story. One of the funniest guys I know is single. Women like good looking guys, funny is just a bonus. This is because most men don't sit around and take selfies all the time like most women do. I haven't taken a pic of myself in about a year now.
Author Omei Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 (edited) Men may not date women they don't find attractive, but we will usually have sex with them. Every guy I know, even the best looking ones, have had sex with at least one fat, ugly girl. I was drinking with a few friends one night and all the guys there were showing off the pics of the ugliest women they ever had sex with and laughing about it. It happens. Every guy has had one of those nights where porn and his right hand isn't enough. That's so mean and totally backs my previous post about men taking it a step further lol not saying woman don't do it too I am sure they do but they seem to keep it between just the girls, I have been around many groups of males that just do it aloud even when us woman can hear. One of my male friends actually talks about his friends girlfriends and RATES them from one-10 I find it totally annoying I have no idea why he tells me that stuff, whatever lol I've done the same thing. I also noticed a lot of the same people on POF and OKC could be found on those adult hookup sites too. It was funny to see a profile on POF saying they aren't looking for a hookup, just to see them on a hookup site too. Good times. Lol so im not alone! Edited December 18, 2014 by Omei
Rydo Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Lots of OLD threads get to the point where we realise women like attractive men and men like attractive women... Not exactly news. If you are male and are having trouble getting replies from online dating then you are rating yourself too highly and you need to start messaging less attractive women, sorry. 2
Author Omei Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 (edited) So ive been chatting for a few hours with someone And they want to meet, I offered coffee They want to do this whole wine, dinner and a movie thing I don't really want too if I end up not liking him I will feel horrid about all the wasted money and I feel its too much, I told him this up front. He said fine, but is still trying to convince me to do this huge fancy dinner thing said he wants to treat a lady. Finally he accepts coffee Is it weird that im starting to feel drained? I think its because we're texting god I hate texting Edited December 18, 2014 by Omei
Author Omei Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 (edited) He pushes and pushes and pushes again now.... I don't think I can deal with this guy anymore, at first it was all good but he wont accept my reasons and just keeps pushing for his way when I said I felt uncomfortable with such a fancy date. Im sure hes a nice guy but I am getting so emotionally drained talking to this guy, that now I am no longer interested what now that I wanna back out? He comes on way too strong its like a powerhouse (not sexually but rush rush) Edited December 18, 2014 by Omei 1
deathandtaxes Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Just say 'thank but no thanks. I don't think we're compatible' and that's the end of it. I understand wanting to meet and coffee is always a great first meeting! Don't blame you for wanting to next this fella for being so pushy with the whole big date stuff. 1
FitChick Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 He is hoping you'll feel guilty about the expensive date and have sex with him. Tell him you don't have a lot of time due to holiday preparations so a quick coffee meet and greet is all you can do now. If that doesn't work for him, tell him good luck on his search. 2
Author Omei Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 (edited) He is hoping you'll feel guilty about the expensive date and have sex with him. Tell him you don't have a lot of time due to holiday preparations so a quick coffee meet and greet is all you can do now. If that doesn't work for him, tell him good luck on his search. That is another worry I had with his pushing and why I got so turned off. I will tell him thanks but no thanks Wow man online dating is so fickle its nothing like public dating and so far its been MORE awkward than just asking a guy out in public and brace for success or rejection. I don't think im gonna do any meet up plans so fast it kind of wigs me out, Do you think its normal to spend days/week/or weeks talking online before meeting up? I would rather do this so much. But I know lots of people like to meet fast online, check it out and move on..... Edited December 18, 2014 by Omei
deathandtaxes Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Go for the meet up quick imo. So much can be discerned in five minutes of face to face conversation that days and weeks of e-mail and text can't. Just keep it simple, cheap, and short in duration and what have you got to lose? Heck, don't even text beforehand, just arrange everything through the online site and you never have to give your number away. The online messaging should be to make sure they can put a sentence or two together, that there may be some connection, and then to move from online to real world. Don't overthink it. 1
Author Omei Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 Go for the meet up quick imo. So much can be discerned in five minutes of face to face conversation that days and weeks of e-mail and text can't. Just keep it simple, cheap, and short in duration and what have you got to lose? Heck, don't even text beforehand, just arrange everything through the online site and you never have to give your number away. The online messaging should be to make sure they can put a sentence or two together, that there may be some connection, and then to move from online to real world. Don't overthink it. Interesting, I was expecting a wait longer response. Im interested in what others think about meetings yay or nay to fast meets? I dont think im going to give out my number again so soon but I feel a sense of pressure nearly everyone says rechecking for incoming msgs is really enjoying and they rather text, I agree its super annoying. I like how on OKC a little chat box appears.
Andy_K Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Interesting, I was expecting a wait longer response. Im interested in what others think about meetings yay or nay to fast meets? I dont think im going to give out my number again so soon but I feel a sense of pressure nearly everyone says rechecking for incoming msgs is really enjoying and they rather text, I agree its super annoying. I like how on OKC a little chat box appears. Generally I think fast meets is a good idea - the closer you are to someone, the better it is to just meet and see how you get on. If you're further away then ids consider taking a little longer, as it is harder to arrange then, and gets more time consuming when one party has to drive a significant distance 1
Gaeta Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 I like meeting fast as in super fast. I have made contact online while having my coffee at 7 a.m. and then met them at lunch on same day. Once I made contact at 7 pm, the man happened to live 5 minutes away, he offered we just meet at a Starbucks instead of spending the evening chatting. At 8 pm we met and we ended up dating 1 year. To me it's happening face to face. 2
Shining One Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 That's so mean and totally backs my previous post about men taking it a step further lol not saying woman don't do it too I am sure they do but they seem to keep it between just the girls, I have been around many groups of males that just do it aloud even when us woman can hear.Most people do this to some extent or another. My female coworkers will talk about their OLD experiences at lunch and bash a guy for having to audacity to message them while being 2 inches too short, taking them someplace cheap for a date, or wearing the wrong belt/pants/shoes combination. 1
Author Omei Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 Most people do this to some extent or another. My female coworkers will talk about their OLD experiences at lunch and bash a guy for having to audacity to message them while being 2 inches too short, taking them someplace cheap for a date, or wearing the wrong belt/pants/shoes combination. shallow girls personally I don't care much what a guy wears as long as its not his nerd tshirt for some reason I find guys that wear their fandom shirts on dates really bothersome. Im sure I made fun of people's looks when I was younger but I seriously cant remember a time in my adulthood where ive ewww'd another human being because of how they are. When meeting people of the opposite sex attractive or not I tend to not say anything at all to their faces about their looks I fear hurting their feelings or giving them an ego. Lol I wouldnt mind going to a cheap date im a broke soul lol. I have never actually had a man plan a date for me, I have always done the work and effort, I would like to be romanced someday by someone other than myself lol or I wont let them because they are too extravagant too fast, I think id only ever do extravagant after I knew I liked a guy. I actually put in my profile "you dont need money to make a girl feel special" in hopes that guys in school/parttime jobs wouldnt be afraid. 1
Ann253 Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Go for the meet up quick imo. So much can be discerned in five minutes of face to face conversation that days and weeks of e-mail and text can't. Just keep it simple, cheap, and short in duration and what have you got to lose? Heck, don't even text beforehand, just arrange everything through the online site and you never have to give your number away. The online messaging should be to make sure they can put a sentence or two together, that there may be some connection, and then to move from online to real world. Don't overthink it. I got a kik account (free messaging account) so I don't have to give my number out. I think it's good to txt for a little bit to see if you can have good conversation, but try to meet up after a week or so. Too much txting and then you can start to build unreal expectations.
Author Omei Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 I got a kik account (free messaging account) so I don't have to give my number out. I think it's good to txt for a little bit to see if you can have good conversation, but try to meet up after a week or so. Too much txting and then you can start to build unreal expectations. That's a good suggestion
nofeelings22 Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 That is another worry I had with his pushing and why I got so turned off. I will tell him thanks but no thanks Wow man online dating is so fickle its nothing like public dating and so far its been MORE awkward than just asking a guy out in public and brace for success or rejection. I don't think im gonna do any meet up plans so fast it kind of wigs me out, Do you think its normal to spend days/week/or weeks talking online before meeting up? I would rather do this so much. But I know lots of people like to meet fast online, check it out and move on..... Meet fast and for a short, fun date. Who has time for lengthy messages, only to find you don't like them in person? (the only thing that matters) I go from message to text same day. A little text chat one evening, then meet up within a few days to a week. 1
clia Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Interesting, I was expecting a wait longer response. Im interested in what others think about meetings yay or nay to fast meets? I dont think im going to give out my number again so soon but I feel a sense of pressure nearly everyone says rechecking for incoming msgs is really enjoying and they rather text, I agree its super annoying. I like how on OKC a little chat box appears. Definitely do fast meets. Exchange a few e-mails to establish that the guy seems normal and then arrange to meet them within a week or two for a drink or a cup of coffee. Don't give out your number if you aren't comfortable. I found that exchanging too many e-mails or talking on the phone too much prior to meeting results in creating a fantasy in your head about who the person is, making it that much more disappointing when you finally meet them in person and there is no chemistry. It also weeds out the guys who are just looking for a pen pal. (And there are a lot of them.) The reality is that you won't have chemistry with the majority of the men you meet, no matter how good they "sound" on paper. Best not to get too attached. 2
Author Omei Posted December 19, 2014 Author Posted December 19, 2014 Checked a few times today only to find a lot of men with no profile pictures and barely anything written in their profiles left me some msgs, I didn't respond I had zero feel if there was even anything in common to open with. So I sent out a few msgs to some men, a few responded but again maybe its just out of kindness because eventually they just stop replying and you can still see them online but whatever when they stop I accept and move on. I found a interesting profile of a guy who I found attractive but in his profile its his female best friend explaining shes making it for him because he cant seem to ever meet nice girls and she gos on to say hes the most kind and generous man if only girls would give him a chance and only kind loving girls need apply. I feel like im what she describes im a ball of love goo when I like someone so I wrote the profile a thoughtful msg. I have no idea if the girl responds or the male, even if he doesn't like me im interested in finding out dun dun dun I thought that profile was sweet
Author Omei Posted December 21, 2014 Author Posted December 21, 2014 This online thing isn't going to great lol I have yet to do a meetup and a lot of people seem to be of east indian decent not that I have anything against that but I don't like tying to understand what they type as someone who is like a nazi for making sense ( me )I don't think id get along. And men with lots of beards beards beard beards rarely do I like a man with a beard. Kissing hurts.
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