Author BananaIceCream Posted December 18, 2014 Author Posted December 18, 2014 (edited) No, honestly I was reeling over his very first comment (the one starting with 'clearly you have no self respect). My posts are emotionally charged cause I felt my being and my character being attacked. He doesn't know me personally so to make a sweeping judgement (oh you have no self respect) based on ONE life event at ONE time was totally off base. And the way it was said gave off a superior vibe. Also his post said I was continuing to eat heir **** sandwich and clinging onto them when I ALREADY said that I had NO CONTACT and I WALKED. Turners I am sorry for freaking out like I did. Edited December 18, 2014 by BananaIceCream
sunburned Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 . Fast forward three more years when I get a text from my ex at 3am and immediately I knew it was for someone else. Found out after some snooping he had been going to the strip club up the street from where he lives and met a gal four years younger than me (I'm 30). I am beyond shattered and devastated because I truly thought we had something special between us. During the 6 months after DDay we were constantly fighting and he continued to deny to the end that he had been cheating. I cried my eyes out, poured my heart out, begged him to please admit it and we would work on it and I would forgive him. He never budged at all. There were a couple things that stuck with my mind that he said while he was drunk. One of them being that strippers have terrific sex, and the other being that I wasn't the best he had in bed. When I later told him what he said he was blank, and he seemed upset with himself but said he didn't mean it. It was too late since I already feel inadequate. Still, every time we fought he would go back to that strip club or turn off his phone and ignore me. It was like a different man I had never met. We were at his best friend's wife kids birthday party. Everyone there avoided eye contact with me. I sat by myself and just surfed my iPhone, his 7 yr old daughter laying on my arms (I was sooooooo in love with his daughter she was truly like my little sister or niece). Best friends wife gives me a smirk and bumps my ex with her hip and gives him a sexy look blatantly in front of me. Finally I called it quits. When I told him it wasn't going to work he said 'oh really, who's the new guy?' Liar knew I wasn't seeing anyone. ! You are getting really defensive with total strangers trying to help you. When they suggest you lack self respect, perhaps it has to do with the way you presented the story. You said your BF cheated on you (with a stripper, no less!) and you stuck around for at least 6 months. He bad-mouthed you so badly that you were ostracized at the friend's b'day party. The friend's wife dissed you with the hip bump. These are all awful things. You go on to say you "finally" called it quits as if you yourself realized you let this bad treatment go on so long. That's why these concerned posters are inquiring about your self-respect. Yes, you left. Bravo, but you put up with a lot of grief for a long time. 1
SycamoreCircle Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Look over some of Artie Lang's other responses to people. True to his DJ namesake, he seems to clothe his concern in insults and blue collar backtalk. I wouldn't take it personal. 1
notbroken Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 Don't check his facebook page. Ever. Block him. You looking around will NOT help you. He's just going to post up false stuff saying how great his life is. Your ex is/was trash. I know it is tough, but accept that and move on the best you can. Question yourself (briefly! - don't second guess every thing you do) about why you were with him in the first place. Is it possible you are picking poor candidates for long term relationships due to your past somehow? Just a question. 2
turnera Posted December 18, 2014 Posted December 18, 2014 (edited) No I'm only deriding you since you came on here blasting with you garbage about me not having self respect and putting on bitch boots blah blah blah. I didn't ask for critique on me (and I even said that multiple times) but on the situation. Got it, get it, good :-D Wow, classy response. Blasting...with garbage...bitch boots...got it, get it, good... Here's a clue - your situation IS about you. That's why people will look at you and your actions, to see what kind of advice to give you. The first thing someone in your situation needs to do is leave the guy. Great. You did that. The second thing to do is figure out what was going on. That's what we were trying to do with you. But if you see us as attacking you, your wall won't allow you to hear anything. Edited December 18, 2014 by turnera
Selfish Posted December 19, 2014 Posted December 19, 2014 The OP sounds very, very young. I think there is much more to this story than she has shared. 1
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