t-rids Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 So, I was out at a bar on Saturday night, saw a girl I used to go to school with 10 years ago from a distance but not to talk too. She was the year above at my school and I had a massive crush on her but never used to speak to her at school. Anyway, having noticed her I didn't think much of it and it didn't cross my mind to go up to her and speak to her. My friends and I decided to leave the bar as our train home was due in 10 minutes. As I'm walking out her friend runs up to me and says, "oh so you're going to leave here and not speak to her!". I said I would have but I have to catch the train. She then goes on to say your loss and walks off. Now I know how much I used to fancy this girl, and I thought sod it, and walked back and spoke to her, saying that I really have to go, but I would like to speak to you, can I have your number so we can get in touch. She said sure, Facebook me. So on Monday evening I messaged her on Facebook. It's still not showing that she's read the message. What's your opinion of what's going on here? Do you think she's not interested and just ignored it? Is she deliberately not reading it for a while to keep me on my toes? I'm not sure how to read this one!
doeblin Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 She said sure, Facebook me. And you did. She hasn't read it yet. The ball is in her court. If she answers, great; if she doesn't, then whatever, billion other girls out there. Be cool. ps.: As I'm walking out her friend runs up to me and says, "oh so you're going to leave here and not speak to her!" This was kinda weird, considering you've NEVER talked to her before. Or do you know her friend?
Danda Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 Don't try to mind read haha. It could be anything from terrible like you're just being messed with, to something awesome like she thinks you're really attractive and just hasn't had time to check her FB messages yet, or anything in between. I've had many cases where a guy seemed interested initially and then fell off the grid or stopped responding, and in most of those cases I will never know why. And I read/hear a lot that this happens even more often to guys, like being flaked on or suddenly ignored, etc. So if you try to read people's minds while dating you will probably drive yourself Grade A nuts.
Silent_Shadow Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 It's quite possible she's too shy still at the moment and had her friend attempt to coerce you into asking her out. Don't rely on facebook too much, you're not gonna get any real relationship groundwork done if you both just endlessly chat online yet she's too afraid to at the very least hang out with you for coffee or lunch. So bear that in mind, yeah start small and whatever you do, do not flood her with messages, keep things simple and inquire about her day. So if she doesn't reply anytime soon, don't over analyze, just give it a few days, yet it's imperative you meet again in person and actually get the ball rolling soon if you're interested and you suspect she's interested. If not, time will tell and you'll just know when to move on.
Author t-rids Posted December 16, 2014 Author Posted December 16, 2014 And you did. She hasn't read it yet. The ball is in her court. If she answers, great; if she doesn't, then whatever, billion other girls out there. Be cool. ps.: This was kinda weird, considering you've NEVER talked to her before. Or do you know her friend? Yes I know, and it's the reason I thought there might be something in it. I'd never seen her friend before and she just ran up to me and said that. Found it odd that she felt the need to tell me that before I left the place.
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