just realized that on almost every date I been on in 2014 the woman

[smg15]

Is always the one who ends the date after a couple of hours. Just once I think I need to end things even if I am interested just to show I have other plans and not make it appear that my life is that dull. Just can't believe I have allowed this to happen over and over and never being the one who ends the date first.

 

I'm referring to first meet and greets from someone you meet online.

[somedude81]

Ever heard the saying, "Always leave them wanting more."

 

What you can do is end dates early when they are at a high point.

[Gaeta]

So? I think it's very gentleman for a man to wait for the lady to put an end to the meeting.

[carhill]

First meet and greet doesn't have to be long and drawn out unless you and the lady want it to be. Back when I used OLD to meet strangers, I generally bought them lunch, a choice which defined a particular timeline. If things went well, I suggested a more involved, potentially longer date. If not, moved on. Not every first meeting is a hit.

 

I don'tl recall any first meetings being over an hour or so, even with my exW, who I met for lunch on a rainy day at a little Mexican restaurant I normally ate at. Since we both had to drive about 30 miles to get there from different directions, she was a bit late but I allowed for that, being used to women being late for dates due to distance. Needless to say we got on well so made arrangements for a longer dinner date at a future point and went from there.

 

It's OK to 'end the date first'. If you like the lady, that end can be a suggestion for another date. If not, hey we had a good time and it's a miss. That's life.

[smg15]

I will definitely keep this in mind for the future

[bathtub-row]

I'm just curious, why is this important? What difference does it make that you weren't the one to end the date?