Gloria25 Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I'm just curious here... Why do some guys feel they have to do the whole strippers thing for bachelor parties? I mean, some will even go so far to have a ONS to like "celebrate" their last moment of "freedom"...Which, I don't get, cuz I'm assuming that from the point you became exclusive with your soon-to-be wife, why now you wanna just cheat once? Can I get some info/opinions on a guy's thinking behind these things? 1
Donnie Darko Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 Guys cheating at the bachelor party are probably the same ones that will cheat during the marriage. Other guys can go to a strip club and have every girl throw their breasts in their face,whisper sweet nothings in their ears and no matter what they are not going to cheat whether they are married or not. 3
Toodaloo Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I think some chaps take the whole "ball and chain" thing way too seriously and assume that as soon as that ring is on their finger its like a leash around their neck (or noose depending on he woman...). I guess its a way to blow off steam. Its a "boy" thing. Same way face packs are a "girl" thing. Some girls have strippers too. Can't say its really my thing but I would take a peek and check out his "guns" if I were at a party where there was one. Mind you I did walk into a pub full of naked rugby players once and failed to notice until someone else pointed it out... in my defense I wasn't wearing my glasses and I was running late... And someone did put on a clip of a male pole dancer at the Royal Variety Show and I have to say those thighs were terribly... interesting... you could do a lot with those thighs... I just stood with my mouth open! 3
gaius Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I think it's mostly to do with bonding with other guys, proving you're not whipped or whatever. I don't really bond with other guys that much so I've never been invited to one. That's my best guess.
Els Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I've never understood this either. Fortunately this isn't a thing in our culture, and I've always wondered what the point was. We're not exactly in the eighteenth century where a man and woman are strictly platonic (and often chaperoned!) until they're married. Today, most people are exclusive a long time before they marry. So what's up with the whole 'final fling' thing? If you'd wanted one you should get one before you agree to be exclusive, no?
Radu Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I'm just curious here... Why do some guys feel they have to do the whole strippers thing for bachelor parties? I mean, some will even go so far to have a ONS to like "celebrate" their last moment of "freedom"...Which, I don't get, cuz I'm assuming that from the point you became exclusive with your soon-to-be wife, why now you wanna just cheat once? Can I get some info/opinions on a guy's thinking behind these things? I don't get it either. If you truly 'need it', you're not ready for marriage. 1
Got it Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I believe you have explained this before. Guys are biologically wired to have sex with multiple people and because working women have emasculated them, they have to show their friends they still have it. All done because of the damn feminist movement. It's women's fault. 2
Author Gloria25 Posted December 16, 2014 Author Posted December 16, 2014 Some girls have strippers too. Can't say its really my thing but I would take a peek and check out his "guns" if I were at a party where there was one. Mind you I did walk into a pub full of naked rugby players once and failed to notice until someone else pointed it out... in my defense I wasn't wearing my glasses and I was running late... And someone did put on a clip of a male pole dancer at the Royal Variety Show and I have to say those thighs were terribly... interesting... you could do a lot with those thighs... I just stood with my mouth open! Ummmm, coming into a pub full of naked rugby players? Where? Please doo tell!!! Ok, just joking. Anywho, I've gone to a few male reviews with gfs and all I did was giggle. I've seen on like HBO and stuff how women can get down, dirty, and nasty with those guys...eh, but doesn't do a thing for me. I don't get turned on about a guy dancing for dollar bills. Now, I also got a lap dance from a girl stripper and again, eh, didn't really do a thing for me. I spent most of the time chatting to her. She was a nice girl. Now, if it was a "private" thing (i.e. me dancing for my guy or him putting the moves on me), then yea, I'd be turned on. Again, I just don't get the stripper club thing. Geesh, worst the ones like Chris Rock was referring to - where they serve food at. How can you eat while someone is shakin' their privates in your face? Now, in the club scene, I've danced with chicks, danced in cages - on poles and stuff. I've also gotten dirty on the dance floor with a guy I'm seeing. That would be more exciting than the strip clubs. But, chicks do sorta run the club scene for their Bachelorette parties. Not sure if guys do.
Priv Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 Mind you I did walk into a pub full of naked rugby players once and failed to notice until someone else pointed it out... in my defense I wasn't wearing my glasses and I was running late... And someone did put on a clip of a male pole dancer at the Royal Variety Show and I have to say those thighs were terribly... interesting... you could do a lot with those thighs... I just stood with my mouth open! Whahahaha, yea I think all uni Rugby clubs do that. It is the ONLY reason I joined up. The annual naked run start of the year and free beer for those naked (and red and ashamed while desperately attempting to keep your privates cupped). We were especially evil since we did the run from the middle of the town centre to campus (3 km or so I think?). Getting cheered on by the locals. Police officers. Students. All of them. What a time! 4
MissBee Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 (edited) For me personally I wouldn't want to marry a man whose mentality was that he was giving up his freedom so needed to have a random ONS before our wedding. Sorry, that means you're not ready to be married. If you're not excited about it but instead are acting like this is the night before you serve a life sentence... Goodbye! I've been to strip clubs with a bf and I don't necessarily have a big problem with strippers in and of it self, but I do feel like one's priorities are all messed up if the night before your wedding that's what's on your mind to do. The kind of man I'd marry most likely won't be thinking like that. Even for me I'd have a bridal shower versus some wild Bachelorette party. Edited December 16, 2014 by MissBee 2
Author Gloria25 Posted December 16, 2014 Author Posted December 16, 2014 Even for me I'd have a bridal shower versus some wild Bachelorette party. Oh gosh no, I'd never have a bridal shower - I think that's as brutal as a wedding. I've been to a couple of baby showers and all you do is sit there, have some food, try to make conversations, play a few games, and watch her open gifts. You pretty much are watching your clock and praying for it to end. While I'm not keen on the stripper thing, I'd be out on the town with the girls with the whole tiara, drinks, and fun. I guess I'm more of a "glamour"/Sex and the City chick. I like the lights, the excitement!!!
TouchedByViolet Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 ONS is cheating, not the normal and unacceptable. Strippers are fun eye candy. It's enjoyable to see all the hot ladies and their dance routines. It's more of an erotic visual fantasy than anything else. There are many guys who don't care for it but I've enjoyed the 3-4 quality strip clubs I have been to in my life. I didn't pay for anything other than a dance.
Priv Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I think it's mostly to do with bonding with other guys, proving you're not whipped or whatever. I don't really bond with other guys that much so I've never been invited to one. That's my best guess. I think so too. A few years ago a than very good friend of mine and loads of his married friends flew in to Holland/Amsterdam for his bachelor party. Within hours they went for a prostitute. Not just my friend the bachelor but all the married men with children (about 7 or so) as well. I think that it was mostly group pressure for the other men, not sure what my than friends reasoning was. Probably some stone age thinking that it is ok for his bachelor party and needing to look cool? Ironically, I was the ONLY single guy and never went. Yea, stood my ground on that one while the drunk asses even offered to pay me for it (like it was the money that is the issue?!?). After that it just didn't feel right going to his marriage anymore and we kind of lost contact. Other more fun bachelor party a year or 2 ago 'bad' stuff did happen with an actually wilder group. But that's more about getting the fear in a rather hostile environment coupled with copious amounts of hallucinogens. That was fun! . At least he was able to look his wife semi-straight in the eye and while she might still have looked a bit reptillian for another day or 2 coming back noone of us ever thought of doing prostitutes and/or strippers. That wedding was beautiful btw! 1
Toodaloo Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 (edited) Whahahaha, yea I think all uni Rugby clubs do that. It is the ONLY reason I joined up. The annual naked run start of the year and free beer for those naked (and red and ashamed while desperately attempting to keep your privates cupped). We were especially evil since we did the run from the middle of the town centre to campus (3 km or so I think?). Getting cheered on by the locals. Police officers. Students. All of them. What a time! Oh this was at a hen party a couple of years ago... I noticed the lads at college when they were naked - hard not to when they were waggling their dingalings at you while shouting whooo hoo and running off...! Edited December 16, 2014 by Toodaloo
Toodaloo Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I've been to a couple of baby showers and all you do is sit there, have some food, try to make conversations, play a few games, and watch her open gifts. You pretty much are watching your clock and praying for it to end. This is OH SO TRUE! Really bloody awkward... I hate them.
carhill Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I'm just curious here... Why do some guys feel they have to do the whole strippers thing for bachelor parties? They like gazing at naked women and 'buying' it feels powerful and is, for those who partake, generally fun, usually lubricated by alcohol and/or drugs. I mean, some will even go so far to have a ONS to like "celebrate" their last moment of "freedom"...Which, I don't get, cuz I'm assuming that from the point you became exclusive with your soon-to-be wife, why now you wanna just cheat once? For those who are not serially unfaithful, a symbolic end to their sexual abandon signaling their legal commitment to one person. Generally, men who do such things can disconnect sex from love and commitment. They compartmentalize. They can, however, honor their legal commitment. It's a choice, like any other. Can I get some info/opinions on a guy's thinking behind these things? This was common in my generation and part of 'boys being boys'. The guys I knew who participated, generally at a young age, 18-22 or so, went on to be normal husbands and fathers. The bachelor party was a rite of passage into the bonds of matrimony. Men generally got married relatively young in my demographic. As an engaged man at a relatively late point in life, such things didn't interest me. 1
Danda Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 Not a guy, but I've always perceived pre-wedding rituals to be about trying to tempt both bride and groom to bail, as a way of making sure they are really ready for the commitment they're about to make (and making it for the right reasons). It's also very common for women to go to male strip clubs (although they are actually more hilarious than sexy, to be honest lol). But the bachelor / bachelorette parties are for male bonding and female bonding during which the friends of both groom and bride are supposed to be doing a reality check for their engaged friend. Like if the groom goes hog-wild, gets drunk and goes way too far, he's probably not ready for marriage. But it's the more light-hearted fun side of this process. Then they also hopefully have their best man and best woman giving them a more serious, "Are you sure about this? If you're not, you get in my car and we get out of here, no judging," talks. At least that's just the way I've always perceived it. When I go to my cousin's and brother's weddings later in 2015, I will definitely be offering both of them an easy, judgement-free out if they're having second thoughts. I won't be like, trying to encourage them to bail or anything, but I think it's important to offer that supportive, no-judging escape route for both bride and groom.
Toodaloo Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 Not a guy, but I've always perceived pre-wedding rituals to be about trying to tempt both bride and groom to bail, as a way of making sure they are really ready for the commitment they're about to make (and making it for the right reasons). . So this is why they get tied to a lamp post naked then... If they can make it back in time it shows true love commitment and dedication!!! 3
Danda Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 So this is why they get tied to a lamp post naked then... If they can make it back in time it shows true love commitment and dedication!!! Hell yeah lol.
Bruce Leigh Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I'm just curious here... Why do some guys feel they have to do the whole strippers thing for bachelor parties? I mean, some will even go so far to have a ONS to like "celebrate" their last moment of "freedom"...Which, I don't get, cuz I'm assuming that from the point you became exclusive with your soon-to-be wife, why now you wanna just cheat once? Can I get some info/opinions on a guy's thinking behind these things? Bah, women do this on their Hen nights too. What's their thinking behind it? Or are they just acting like men?? Sling mud in one direction, only fair to sling it in the other one.
Author Gloria25 Posted December 16, 2014 Author Posted December 16, 2014 For those who are not serially unfaithful, a symbolic end to their sexual abandon signaling their legal commitment to one person. Generally, men who do such things can disconnect sex from love and commitment. They compartmentalize. They can, however, honor their legal commitment. It's a choice, like any other. And, I agree with you here...^^. While there are "dogs" out there and/or guys who act crazy on pressure from the male brood, I believe some guys cheat to "get it out of their system" and/or to prove they wanna stay with their SO. I am glad I didn't follow through with such a situation, I kinda felt he just wanted something he could jizz in. Something didn't feel right.
Author Gloria25 Posted December 16, 2014 Author Posted December 16, 2014 Not a guy, but I've always perceived pre-wedding rituals to be about trying to tempt both bride and groom to bail, as a way of making sure they are really ready for the commitment they're about to make (and making it for the right reasons). It's also very common for women to go to male strip clubs (although they are actually more hilarious than sexy, to be honest lol). But the bachelor / bachelorette parties are for male bonding and female bonding during which the friends of both groom and bride are supposed to be doing a reality check for their engaged friend. Like if the groom goes hog-wild, gets drunk and goes way too far, he's probably not ready for marriage. But it's the more light-hearted fun side of this process. Then they also hopefully have their best man and best woman giving them a more serious, "Are you sure about this? If you're not, you get in my car and we get out of here, no judging," talks. At least that's just the way I've always perceived it. When I go to my cousin's and brother's weddings later in 2015, I will definitely be offering both of them an easy, judgement-free out if they're having second thoughts. I won't be like, trying to encourage them to bail or anything, but I think it's important to offer that supportive, no-judging escape route for both bride and groom. You know, that "is" different way to look at it. Kinda like what carhill was sayin' - sort of a "test" for people to see if they'd be tempted to do something stupid.
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 Not all men do this. There is also a vast difference between looking and touching. I'm a serial monogamist. In the almost 30 years I have been dating as an adult, 1 guy I was with went to 1 bachelor party where there were strippers & they were only strippers, up on a stage away from the attendees. Even among my buddies, many of whom are single, I remember 1 raucous bachelor party. Even that wasn't too bad. The groom's father had passed away years earlier. The guys invited my then 83 year old dad along for the festivities as the honorary father of the groom. It was way more drinking then anything else.
StanMusial Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I've been to at least a dozen bachelor parties and even more weddings. It is tradition mainly. One thing I have observed is that these parties and ceremonies are more about the guests and participants other than the actual groom and/or bride.
AVarma Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 I've never understood this either. Fortunately this isn't a thing in our culture, and I've always wondered what the point was. We're not exactly in the eighteenth century where a man and woman are strictly platonic (and often chaperoned!) until they're married. Today, most people are exclusive a long time before they marry. So what's up with the whole 'final fling' thing? If you'd wanted one you should get one before you agree to be exclusive, no? Your culture doesn't have bachelor parties? Where are you from?
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