cybclimb Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I have been in an online dating site for the last 3 months and I had several first dates, but I have had no success in having a follow up date. Not one. I don’t think I have trouble getting a date, but as soon as I text them to follow up, I get a BS answer like they are not prepared to for a long term relationship, or something of that derivative, or don’t get an answer at all. I am losing confidence due to this. I am in my 40s, a healthcare professional, healthy and in shape (lift 3 x a week), and going to anesthesia school next year. I am a good conversationalist, and very respectful. I take my dates to good restaurants, and dates would go for like 2-3 hours with post dinner drinks somewhere, and which I would gauge that there’s some interest due to the length of time. But then again, it amounts to nothing the next day. What am I doing wrong? Or the girls that I date are just picky? Some women perspective would help a lot.
Danda Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 We could make a million guesses as to what might help you, but if you had to guess as best as you possibly could as to anything you might be saying or doing that could be putting them off, what would your guess be? Your own introspection and analysis will ultimately be needed. The only thing I'm able to notice from your post is that they tell you that they're not ready for a long-term relationship right now. If they are all saying something along those lines, it makes me wonder if you are bringing up the topic of a relationship during the first date? That's really the only possible thing I can pick up on from what you've shared, like maybe the conversation is getting too heavy for a first date or something?
Author cybclimb Posted December 16, 2014 Author Posted December 16, 2014 The topic of relationships only come up when the girl ask why I am in the dating site. So of course my answer is that ultimately I want a relationship. But I keep the conversation light and fun. Don't get me wrong, I did some rejections too, but I can't get the girls that I like be interested in me.
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