Storybook Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I'm currently in a relationship with the girl I've been in love with since I was seventeen. We are twenty-nine now. I have to remind myself that this is actually happening. I am awake. This is real life. I've never been insecure, but I can't help wondering what she is doing with me. She is one of a kind and needs someone really special. I don't know why I posted this. I am very confused, I guess.
me85 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 What are you confused about exactly? Sounds like you are just expressing your love for your girlfriend. Do you plan on proposing to her?
apedrerov Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 If she is the love of your life maybe it would be good if you start thinking that she is the lucky one to have you. By removing the pressure you are placing on yourself by putting her on a pedestal you become less stressed and healthy emotionally. That will give you more time to enjoy when you are with her or by yourself. 2
Author Storybook Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 She tells me all the time that she isn't perfect and not to put her on a pedestal, but I can't help it. She has been the one and only true love in my life since we met in high school. I never told her my feelings because I never wanted to make her uncomfortable or push her away. Keeping her in my life was the most important part. We've done so much together in our youth. We went our separate ways as you do when you grow up, but still remained dear friends. And through all of these years, through so many relationships, none of them ever came close to making me feel the way she does. I'm full of so many emotions now. I'm terrified of losing her. I'm going to be crushed. It's going to be rough. But one day spent with my true love (trust me, they do exist. This feeling is real) is better than none at all.
toscaroscura Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 The more you live in the future world made up entirely of your own fears, the more you are missing the here and now with this amazing woman. Enjoy her and relax. Nothing is certain in this life. All we ever have is now. 1
Author Storybook Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 What are you confused about exactly? Sounds like you are just expressing your love for your girlfriend. Do you plan on proposing to her? I never wanted to get married, butshe is the only one I want to be with for the rest of my life. I love everything about her, even her faults. Always have. Of course, we are so full of passion for one another right now, so I'm going to give it time and see how things go before I propose. She could turn around tomorrow and say that she doesn't want to be with me anymore. That's how she is, but it's also one of the things I love about her. She's such a free-spirit. You know Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany's? That's exactly who she is. She is my Holly.
Author Storybook Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 The more you live in the future world made up entirely of your own fears, the more you are missing the here and now with this amazing woman. Enjoy her and relax. Nothing is certain in this life. All we ever have is now. Thank you. That's exactly what I'm trying to do. I've never felt this terrified in any relationship. I've had a lot, I loved them and I was happy for a while, but they were never her so I wasn't in love with anyone else, ever. And I know real life. I know that relationships fall apart, love never lasts,and life goes on. I've never been emotionally available with anyone either, so kept my feelings walled up a lot. But all I want to do with her is tell her how much I love her all the time. She has my heart completely. I've never felt this way before with anyone. I always felt that love was a false ideal. But she brings out the most in me. I wake up every morning in disbelief that we're actually together. It's like I'm living in a movie. That's the only time where guys like me get what they want after 13 years of being in love with one person.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Give her to me, I'll take her off your hands... because you living in this fantasy world is going to push her away anyway, and she's not going to be able to respect you with you acting like an obsessive idiot...get a hold of yourself man, you're making the mistake every white knight is making and we all know women don't actually fall for that guy, they need someone who's a bit more balanced unless they're desperate, you treating her like this perfect being and putting yourself down and her up is making her feel like maybe you're not the right guy for her...women need a guy with a bit of resistance, they get bored with easy, they lose sexual and romanticize interest. I know you're happy and I'll take your word on never feeling or acting this way even though I don't believe it, I question your awareness and judgment to say the least....but you will lose her this way for certain, she doesn't want to be treated this way and held to this weird expectation of perfection when women are already insecure as it is, and she obviously doesn't feel the same way about you, putting you far ahead of the romance road, you need to relax and get over the past or you will kill everything you have today. But maybe the reality is that you can't handle it, and might not ever get yourself out of this obsessive image. 1
toscaroscura Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Give her to me, I'll take her off your hands... because you living in this fantasy world is going to push her away anyway, and she's not going to be able to respect you with you acting like an obsessive idiot...get a hold of yourself man, you're making the mistake every white knight is making and we all know women don't actually fall for that guy, they need someone who's a bit more balanced unless they're desperate, you treating her like this perfect being and putting yourself down and her up is making her feel like maybe you're not the right guy for her...women need a guy with a bit of resistance, they get bored with easy, they lose sexual and romanticize interest. I know you're happy and I'll take your word on never feeling or acting this way even though I don't believe it, I question your awareness and judgment to say the least....but you will lose her this way for certain, she doesn't want to be treated this way and held to this weird expectation of perfection when women are already insecure as it is, and she obviously doesn't feel the same way about you, putting you far ahead of the romance road, you need to relax and get over the past or you will kill everything you have today. But maybe the reality is that you can't handle it, and might not ever get yourself out of this obsessive image. I agree with this. Pedestals are very confining places and it's a lot of pressure for a mere mortal to live up to an idealized fantasy image. Beware...
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