ponchsox Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 So I met this girl from Tinder for drinks. She showed up 30 minutes late which was a small strike but I had a drink and didn't worry too much. After we had a drink and talked for an hour I asked her if she wanted to grab a movie and she wanted to. I assumed she drove but she told me she doesn't know how to drive and she's 33 years old because she lived in Chicago. I understand she didn't need a car but to never learn how to drive as an adult, not even an automatic? This was a huge turnoff for me. And she lives with her parents, although she just moved from Chicago 8 months ago. Guys, this is a deal breaker, right? My buddies are busting my balls because I didnt "hit it"
StalwartMind Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Not really, but if you think so, then you should probably leave her alone.
mammasita Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I'm not a man, but I can see how that would be a turn off. I think it would probably be for me if the roles were reversed, but you have to consider a few other things too..... Other than living with her parents because she just moved there, does she have a career? A plan to move into her own place? Is she going to learn how to drive? I mean she would have to, right? 1
gaius Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 My sexual attraction to women isn't usually based much on her ambition level. =/ And driving in the city blows so I don't blame her. 1
Author ponchsox Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 I'm not a man, but I can see how that would be a turn off. I think it would probably be for me if the roles were reversed, but you have to consider a few other things too..... Other than living with her parents because she just moved there, does she have a career? A plan to move into her own place? Is she going to learn how to drive? I mean she would have to, right? She's a waitress. I'm not knocking her, she's working, but she doesn't seem to have any career goals.
Gloria25 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I'm not a man, but I can see how that would be a turn off. I think it would probably be for me if the roles were reversed, but you have to consider a few other things too..... Other than living with her parents because she just moved there, does she have a career? A plan to move into her own place? Is she going to learn how to drive? I mean she would have to, right? I don't agree with the "turn off", but I agree with the rest you said. Believe it or not, if people don't have a need to drive, they won't learn. My dad taught us when we were tweens/teens - but only got a license for my oldest sister cuz the country we lived in was jacked up when it came to giving out licenses (Americans, get on your knees and thank God for the DMV/DDS). So, even though I never had a vehicle, I had to learn after I joined the military in order to do my job. My mom never got a license. She grew up in a third world country, used public transportation and/or my dad drove her everywhere. One of my oldest sisters also came from a third world country and learned to drive in her late 30's cuz she had no choice. I was surprised for real when I heard she finally learned.
Author ponchsox Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 She lives 30 minutes away. No license = I have to pick her up and drive her everywhere.
shet Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I live pretty much in the countryside in southeast England. Here, everyone drives because you have to. I and everyone I knew drove from the earliest age possible, 18. Some had motorbikes earlier. I still drive the jalopy I've had since I was 20. When I started mingling with people from London or Brighton, I found that most people don't drive. They use public transport. I was meeting people in their twenties and thirties who never owned a car and never learned to drive because they never had to. Frankly if I moved to the city I'd ditch mine. Parking at home. Parking fees at work. Congestion. Congestion charges. Traffic cameras. Insurance increase. Fines. Rage. Took me a while to wrap my head around it too. To begin with I felt like I was just meeting loads of immature people. 1
somedude81 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 She lives 30 minutes away. No license = I have to pick her up and drive her everywhere. Just have her give you oral when you pick her up and drive her back 1
Author ponchsox Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 Just have her give you oral when you pick her up and drive her back Meh, she's not hot enough to make the trip
mammasita Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Meh, she's not hot enough to make the trip BAAHAHAHAAHHAHAH! Well there's your answer. NEXT. 2
FitChick Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I know a man in his sixties who grew up in NYC, then moved to SF when he came out of the closet. When he travels he goes to other cities -- London, Paris, Rome, so he never needs to drive. Works for him. I think driving is a useful skill to have though.
losangelena Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Meh, she's not hot enough to make the trip So why the hell are you asking us, then? I don't have a car right now (and I live in Los Angeles!) and my boyfriend lives on the other side of town. I was very clear about that upfront, even before we met, but as he said, for the right girl, it's no hassle. Even before we met, I was in a FWB situation, and that guy would pick me up/drop me off as well. What I'm saying is—if it's a dealbreaker for you, then it is. I don't see what that has to do with you "hitting it" or not. You don't sound like you like or respect her very much, so I'd save her the hassle and end it now. 1
oberkeat Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 She lives 30 minutes away. No license = I have to pick her up and drive her everywhere. That would be my concern as well. I think OP prefers a girl who is self-sufficient.
Brimstone Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I opted for the motorcycle license when I was 18. Hasn't steered me wrong...
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