Conrad1 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 So this girl I have been talking to and seeing for the past 1-2 months just recently withdrew a little bit. She is usually texting very often throughout the day, flirting, and trying to schedule future plans, etc. Recently, she asked me who the last percent I dated was, and we both opened up about our last relationship, and both of us came from a lying/cheating ex from about 4-5 months ago. After talking about, we verbally told each other we liked we each other (though it was obvious by then, we cuddled, held hands, hugged a bunch, stuff like that). She told me she REALLY liked me, and didn't want to stay just friends anymore, and wanted to move forward with me. However, she wanted to take things easy and get to know me, and not rush anything. That is totally fine with me, as I want the same thing. The problem (I think) is that she is defensive and has possible trust issues after her last boyfriend. After we last spent time together (which is when she told me she wanted to be more than just friends), she stopped texting almost all together, and when she does, its not nearly as enthusiastic as she normally is. I've asked her if she wants to spend time this upcoming week because I'm more free than normal, and she never even responded to that. She seems to completely avoid my questions involving getting together, and is very dismissive of just general texts, which is completely opposite of how she normally was. What's the deal? We just opened up to each other, and she JUST told me she wants to be more than just a friend and really really likes me, and suddenly now is withdrawn from me. I haven't gotten her in person since then (about 3 days). My only guess is that she is going through thoughts in her head and needs space or something. I haven't been badgering her at all. I usually just check in once a day/every other day, and if she doesn't respond I just leave it at that for the day. What do you guys think she is going through/doing? What should I do? Leave her alone for a little bit?
ponchsox Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 It's simple. She found someone else she likes better. Sorry dude. Move on.
Author Conrad1 Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 She found someone the day after she opened her emotions up lol? I don't know about that.
ponchsox Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 She found someone the day after she opened her emotions up lol? I don't know about that. Probably before. "Opening up" doesn't mean squat. She may have been wishy washy about you two and then decided to end it. People flake out all of the time.
Gaeta Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Knowing how young women can be it's probably just a silly little thing she got bogged down with. Pick up the phone and call. You will know much more by talking with her than by texting. Also, maybe she thought she was ready to take this relationship to the next level but once she asked for it she realized she is not ready. Happens!
Author Conrad1 Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 She isn't really the type of girl to be talking to multiple guys at a time. She also kind of invested quite a bit into me, without going into too much detail. And even if she was, if she was wishy washy, why would she go and tell me how much she likes me and how she wants to move forward, if only to bail shortly after. Seems like it would make things more complicated on her end. That would make a lot more sense if we had barely seen each other and I was only speculating if she liked me.
Author Conrad1 Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 That is a pretty good chance. Am I better off giving her space, or acting the same way I was before?
kolleamm Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Find another woman, in fact find two just in case one fails again. 1
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