mircea.savu19 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Hi there everyone, first of all i have to thank you in advance for taking some of your time for reading my little story! It's about a girl that I'm friend with. She is the only girl that I like after my ex broke-up with me (it was a 3.5 years relationship - broke-up 4 months ago). I like her because she is unique, misterious and because she cares about me. I tried to talk to plenty other girls after the break-up but I don't seem to like their personality at all, instead I'm starting to compare them with my ex (since I loved her very very much and I think I still do ). But when I'm talking with this girl, I don't start to associate her with my ex, maybe because she's that UNIQUE. This is one problem that struggles me: she is so bipolar. One day, she is very happy, she jokes a lot, but the other day, she is so pissed and anything you would say she "attacks" you, she gets grumpy. When she is in that bad shape (sometimes without a good reason), it makes me think that I don't need to talk to her pretty soon. But when she gets "back", my bad thoughts fly away also. The funny fact is that she knows that she' one impossible girl.. Last month, I asked her if she wanted to be my gf and after a long talk (when she became also grumpy) she concluded that she doesn't want to lose me as a friend ( I am her best friend-- we know for more then a year and we got very close, even more after my break-up). She didn't deny the fact that we match, but she is too affraid to lose me as a friend in case we would break-up. She also said in that day that she doesn't have the need to know me in the other way (the boyfriend way). After that day when I tried, things got back to normal. In the week-end, she even invited me to watch movies at her place all the night (it was the first time she invited only me over the night) (nothing happened). She talks so often that we should both leave our country, that we should do plenty of things together. She is that kind of person that doesn't like at all to talk about her personal life, yet I am one great exception, she tells me everything. When she is nice, I feel like I want to be with her. When she is "on her period" (to call it that way) I feel the opposite. What's on her mind? . Why does she intrigue me that much? It's the only girl that ever made me feel this way..the only girl that trully intrigues me so much! Why?
mitzimojo1 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 ...she is difficult to understand. To great a grasp on how she thinks and feels. For some reason human nature is that we are attracted to people who challenge us, and she challenges you. I would be very careful though. Her bipolar behavior will be very hard to have as part of a relationship, unless it's just during her period days and then you can do something about that. If it is more often then that then she needs to deal with that. Also, she says that she in not attracted to you which is a BIG red flag and probably won't change. Chemistry happens right away. Be careful with this one... 1
Gloria25 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Look, while I do not believe in how "bipolar" is thrown around as the latest buzzword to deal with people who might pretty much just be people with "bad attitudes", I do agree that there are some people with chemical imbalances out there. When my period rolls around it's like a cloud is over my head...I mean, like yesterday, when I was walking and now it's stopped. It's like euphoria, like last week was just a bad nightmare. I think the key is "how" she or anyone handles these imbalances. You can't stop periods and some people are born with certain "conditions". Like me, I'll call in sick to work. I'll sorta "keep to myself" when I feel the moodiness coming on and/or suspect its my period. One guy I was with, I came up with a sorta thing I told him. I'd just say something like 'babe, this is not a good time'. I mean, some people hide behind their conditions and/or use them to be abusive towards others and/or to get sympathy. My ex FWB's wife "allegedly" was sexually abused as a child and had an alcoholic father. All my FWB did was try to "fix" her. She responded by cutting him off from sex and talking down to him all the time. She cut off her hair and was abusive. She also said she "couldn't" have sex, but would refuse to go to the doctor about it. And, you see that a lot with abuse victims. They "somehow" get a good man, then punish him for all the bad other males did to them. Evil, if you ask me. So, again, IMO, it boils down to how she handles her moodiness. None of us are perfect.
soyou Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 You like drama. You're attracted to drama. It's thrilling, exhausting, and yet exciting since you seem to never been able to get full of her.
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