mpolitt Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I have am in a relationship with a single mother. Until now, I have neglected to think about the geographical limitations of this relationship. I am not anxious to leave the area, but am worried what the future might bring for us with limited job openings in our area. Any advice would be appreciated.
littleblackheart Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Do you mean to say you're in a relationship with someone who has a child/children? If she's in a relationship with you, how can she be single? Or am I missing something? Reading between the lines, you are worried you might be stuck wherever you are because of custody issues to do with your partner's child - is that correct? Or are you unsure of the state of your relationship?
Author mpolitt Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 Do you mean to say you're in a relationship with someone who has a child/children? If she's in a relationship with you, how can she be single? Or am I missing something? Reading between the lines, you are worried you might be stuck wherever you are because of custody issues to do with your partner's child - is that correct? Or are you unsure of the state of your relationship? Sorry for the confusion. I guess she is single no longer haha. I suppose I don't know how to approach the subject. I want to discuss this and work with her on this as I am afraid of losing the woman I love in the future over geography.
mammasita Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I'm not sure what you're asking? Are you in a long distance relationship? Is her child in another area? I'm confused...... 1
Gloria25 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 (edited) I'm not sure what you're asking? Are you in a long distance relationship? Is her child in another area? I'm confused...... Yea, I mean, you mentioned her and that she has a child. How does that factor in your decision to find a job? Look, IMO, dating people with kids gets complicated cuz the kids bond with you. IMO, if you're not gonna be in it for the long haul (marrying the mother), then I say the kids should never meet you. You should only see the parent on weekends for hamburgers like when the kids are with the other parent and/or grandparents. Not fair to put the kids through additional drama/losses. They already lost one parent. I also consider it a red flag of people with kids who just introduce their kids to each an every person they're dating - waaay before anything serious is even established. I watch certain people. Right now I'm watching one chick. Some guy comes there and spends the night, eh, maybe sticks around for breakfast and maybe lunch. Her kids see that. What is that teaching your kids? That relationships are some guy coming over for nooky and leaving in the morning? Are you telling your kids that's what you are worth? While we all have "needs", I believe you don't do things in front of your kids. Shoot, my mom lives with me and I get embarrassed to bring over a guy - IN MY OWN HOUSE. Why? in part cuz I don't wanna let my mum see me or get the idea that I'm "gettin it on" with some dude. Edited December 15, 2014 by Gloria25 1
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