soph-walker Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Hello all I went on an evening dinner date with a guy I met from Tinder (yep - Tinder, I know) last week. We chatted easily and comfortably, asked each other questions about all sorts, shared common ground, he paid for the meal which I thanked him for. All round good date. He walked me to my car afterwards and gave my a hug/cheek kiss goodbye, and by the time I'd gotten home, he'd texted to say 'thanks for a great evening, we could do it again sometime'. I replied saying 'that would be lovely, I had a great evening too'. Heard nothing from him for about 4/5 days since his text..do I give him a hello how are you text or do you think he was just being polite when he texted? I seem to be having a few one date wonders and I'm at a loss to understand why! Admittedly, I could have texted him in this interim but past and recent experience has bitten me on the behind and I don't want to seem an eager beaver.
xUnknown Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Personally, I think you should reach out to him. He took you out on a date. Perhaps he was waiting for you to text a day or two after the date and say "thank you again, I had a great time. I'd like to do that again soon...hows Saturday sound?" But then again, usually its guys that should initiate... In either case, I say text him and tell him you want to go out again. 1
Author soph-walker Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 Personally, I think you should reach out to him. He took you out on a date. Perhaps he was waiting for you to text a day or two after the date and say "thank you again, I had a great time. I'd like to do that again soon...hows Saturday sound?" But then again, usually its guys that should initiate... In either case, I say text him and tell him you want to go out again. I think I will get in touch, got nothing to lose. Just keep having this same old scenario with first dates, I don't think I'm giving off the vibes that I'm interested because I'm trying not to come on strong. I was kind of working on the 'if a man likes you he will initiate' but I guess that's not always the case with every single man out there.
xUnknown Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I think I will get in touch, got nothing to lose. Just keep having this same old scenario with first dates, I don't think I'm giving off the vibes that I'm interested because I'm trying not to come on strong. I was kind of working on the 'if a man likes you he will initiate' but I guess that's not always the case with every single man out there. Here is why I think you should reach out in this scenario... You just said you don't think you're giving off the vibes that you're interested. So, perhaps he has no clue you are, when you really are. So he isn't going to pursue or ask you out again because those are the vibes you gave off. Sure, if I guy is interested, he should reach out. But he won't if he thinks its one-sided... 1
Author soph-walker Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 Here is why I think you should reach out in this scenario... You just said you don't think you're giving off the vibes that you're interested. So, perhaps he has no clue you are, when you really are. So he isn't going to pursue or ask you out again because those are the vibes you gave off. Sure, if I guy is interested, he should reach out. But he won't if he thinks its one-sided... Ok I will text him and see what's what. What I said though about 'if a guy's interested he will initiate', I wasn't meaning that I think it should be up to the guy to contact however I feel I frequently seem to be the 'initiator' with recent dates to no avail. It's difficult to stay positive!
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