Shredder3931 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Hello everyone, I'm a 21 year old guy living in New York with what I'd like to consider a serious problem. My ex-girlfriend and I got together in February of this year, and although the first few months have been great, I've been generally unhappy ever since July. Throughout my relationship with this person, I've been forced into many things that I was not prepared to deal with, and it has affected my standing with my family. For me personally, family comes before everything, but my ex-girlfriend couldn't seem to understand that, making comments such as her being the "best woman" in my life, among other things. I feel like I'm being used and being guilt tripped into staying in a relationship that I am not happy with. What do I do in this situation?
CarrieT Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 She's an EX-girlfriend, right? Complete the break-up, go No Contact, and don't look back. At 21, you have YEARS to meet the right woman. Why should you be guilted into staying a relationship you aren't happy in?
sm2281 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I can see both sides of this. On the one hand, you are going to have to tell her she is moving too fast. On the other hand, I agree that she should be the "best" woman in your life. I think it's about being in a serious relationship though. Doesn't mean you have to give everyone up, she just wants to be the best woman for you, and I agree with that. Its like having your own little family and not giving up the rest, but just going out on your own together. But if it's moving to fast and you aren't there yet, then maybe you just have to tell her that, and slow down a little. Get some room to breathe.
Trimmer Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Hello everyone, I'm a 21 year old guy living in New York with what I'd like to consider a serious problem. My ex-girlfriend and I got together in February of this year, and although the first few months have been great, I've been generally unhappy ever since July. Throughout my relationship with this person, I've been forced into many things that I was not prepared to deal with, and it has affected my standing with my family. For me personally, family comes before everything, but my ex-girlfriend couldn't seem to understand that, making comments such as her being the "best woman" in my life, among other things. I feel like I'm being used and being guilt tripped into staying in a relationship that I am not happy with. What do I do in this situation? You know what you do. The more interesting question is: why are you not doing it? Incidentally, just to clarify: was she your "Ex" before, and then you got back together again in February? How long was the previous relationship, how long was the break when she was your "ex", and why did it end the first time?
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