LinaC117 Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I recently reconnected with my high school crush and we went on two dates. Our third date consisted of going out to dinner and then we went back to his place. We were watching tv in his bedroom when he said he needed to fart.....well he let them rip, he let out 3 or 4 massive farts while he was laying right next to me. He didnt bother to excuse himself or go to another room he just kept letting them go. I dont want to sound like a prude but I was just so turned off. He's almost 30! I was sure that by that age he'd have some manners and excuse himself especially since it was only our third date. I've noticed that he swears a lot too, there's and F bomb in every sentence... He is a pretty good guy and has a good job, family orientated, very nice but I dont know what to think of his "comfort level" with me. Am I taking this too seriously? If he does this kind of stuff already what will it be like in the future?
doeblin Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 If you don't like it now, you're gonna loathe it later. 2
FootballFan Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Yep I agree if he's already farting up a storm this soon in you can only imagine what's going to come later. 1
adiamond Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I had a guy burp super loudly after eating pizza outside his window and bust out laughing because it was hilarious. He then proceeded to do it 2x more times without excusing himself. Totally friend zoned him, it was gross. Though, if you really like him, I guess you could let him know but depending on his personality, he might be offended. Personally, not a fan! 2
Danda Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 LOL almost sounds like he was putting you through some kind of extreme "does she accept me for who I am" test or something. Like he and his buddies were at the bar and he was like, "I don't know man, does she really like me or not?" And his drunk friend was like, "Listen. The best way to test a woman's feelings for you is to get her in a small room and fart so crazy it'd give a war veteran flashbacks. If she doesn't dump you then it's true love." As far as swearing, I have a rather foul mouth, myself. When I go in for a job interview one of my goals in the back of my mind is to not accidentally drop the F bomb once. I make an effort to clean up my language around people who I can tell find it off-putting or offensive. But I couldn't date someone who was bothered by it because I'd never be able to keep it up for long, that's for ****ing sure. So if his 'tendencies' are bothering you, probably best to bail now instead of later. 2
Jules Dash Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I am turned off just reading this. I never reach the comfort level to allow this. Six years into the relationship you will still wonder if I have that function. I think once you start doing this, it almost encourages your woman to start fantasizing about another man. For example, think of a fantasy man that you believe is very sexy and you fantasize about sleeping wit him ... do you imagine him farting in your fantasy? Probably not... 2
Author LinaC117 Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 Jules Dash yes it honestly makes me not even want to see him ever again. I bet you he'll think im the crazy one for breaking it off and then he'll accuse me of liking jerks when I put him in the friend zone.
Jules Dash Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Jules Dash yes it honestly makes me not even want to see him ever again. I bet you he'll think im the crazy one for breaking it off and then he'll accuse me of liking jerks when I put him in the friend zone. If he is that clueless he deserves to be at home alone, playing World of Warcraft, growing a potbelly and farting up the place with no vagina within a 100 mile radius. I wouldn't date someone who does this. Major turnoff to me as you can see. 2
Gloria25 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 (edited) LOL almost sounds like he was putting you through some kind of extreme "does she accept me for who I am" test or something. Like he and his buddies were at the bar and he was like, "I don't know man, does she really like me or not?" And his drunk friend was like, "Listen. The best way to test a woman's feelings for you is to get her in a small room and fart so crazy it'd give a war veteran flashbacks. If she doesn't dump you then it's true love." Yes, but it's one thing for him to be "testing" her by watching to see how she reacts to him farting naturally - it's another to blatantly blow, blow, blow and watch to see if she freaks. We women aren't stupid, we can tell when you are doing something intentionally. I think what he did was rude and childish. Couldn't he just wait for one to naturally "rip" to see how she reacted? And, what's more rude is that regardless if he ripped intentionally or involuntarily - you still say "excuse" me. If you smell it, get up and look for something to spray. IMO, he would have failed the test not cuz he farted, but how he handled it. About the F-bomb? Well, I have a dirty mouth - but again, if he did the f-bombs to see if he could get a rise out of you instead of that just being his way to talk, then again, he would have failed my test. Also, what kind of test is cursing in the privacy of your own home with a woman? I say really shocking things in private. Do you think I'm gonna use that mouth at work, at church, etc? So, again, another immature "test", IMO. Cuz, what I'm looking for is for a man who knows how to conduct himself at the right place/right time (i.e. not eating with your fork in a restaurant, for gosh sakes use a fork and a knife...have some class). Look, I'm sure guys don't want women to test them. I don't want some guy to be "testing" me either. Be your freakin' self, give us time, and if issues come up - I'll communicate them to you. If it's a deal breaker, then I put you on notice and we couldn't work it out and now I'm gone. Edited December 15, 2014 by Gloria25 1
Gloria25 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I am turned off just reading this. I never reach the comfort level to allow this. Six years into the relationship you will still wonder if I have that function. I think once you start doing this, it almost encourages your woman to start fantasizing about another man. For example, think of a fantasy man that you believe is very sexy and you fantasize about sleeping wit him ... do you imagine him farting in your fantasy? Probably not... Well, his dream girl can probably be the one who clips her toe nails while scrubbing the dead skin off her heels in front of him and/or changes her blood stained maxi-pads in the bathroom with him while he's taking a dump. I mean, no one is saying "hide yourself". There's just certain things you do to keep your SO from turning into your bf/gf and/or "lover" into a "roommate". I was watching "Date Nite" with Steve Carell and Tina Fey. And in a scene, right there she took out her retainer or something out of her mouth with drool coming from it and he was like "eh, forget it". I mean, why do that in front of your SO? Go into the bathroom, take out your retainer and come and kiss him. Sometimes I get bad breath morning after. If I want to have sex and kiss my guy who slept over, I get up, go to the bathroom and brush my teeth discreetly, come back and start locking lips with him. It's not that hard. Or, if I don't feel like brushing my teeth, I'll just start going down on him or kissing him all over except the mouth. Geeesh.
Author LinaC117 Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 Well, his dream girl can probably be the one who clips her toe nails while scrubbing the dead skin off her heels in front of him and/or changes her blood stained maxi-pads in the bathroom with him while he's taking a dump. I mean, no one is saying "hide yourself". There's just certain things you do to keep your SO from turning into your bf/gf and/or "lover" into a "roommate". I was watching "Date Nite" with Steve Carell and Tina Fey. And in a scene, right there she took out her retainer or something out of her mouth with drool coming from it and he was like "eh, forget it". I mean, why do that in front of your SO? Go into the bathroom, take out your retainer and come and kiss him. Sometimes I get bad breath morning after. If I want to have sex and kiss my guy who slept over, I get up, go to the bathroom and brush my teeth discreetly, come back and start locking lips with him. It's not that hard. Or, if I don't feel like brushing my teeth, I'll just start going down on him or kissing him all over except the mouth. Geeesh. You are spot on! Completely agree with keeping certain things to yourself in order to prevent your SO from turning into a "roommate". People wonder why the spark in their relationship has gone, well ripping farts and acting like you are around one of the guys is a sure way to kill it, especially on the third date.... 1
Jules Dash Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 You are spot on! Completely agree with keeping certain things to yourself in order to prevent your SO from turning into a "roommate". People wonder why the spark in their relationship has gone, well ripping farts and acting like you are around one of the guys is a sure way to kill it, especially on the third date.... Yes. My philosophy is to always try to be your partner's fantasy as much as possible. Don't go around them burping, farting and digging in your nose and crap. 1
mrs rubble Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 He sounds completely uncouth. Most guys I've met in the past with potty mouths and gas issues, usually have a pretty terrible attitude towards women too,- leering, making inappropriate remarks,and generally degrading towards females as a whole. Is your farty pants vocal about random women and their (bodily)assets? If so, I'd run a mile if I were you. 1
Author LinaC117 Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 He sounds completely uncouth. Most guys I've met in the past with potty mouths and gas issues, usually have a pretty terrible attitude towards women too,- leering, making inappropriate remarks,and generally degrading towards females as a whole. Is your farty pants vocal about random women and their (bodily)assets? If so, I'd run a mile if I were you. I was thinking the exact same thing. A guy with actual respect for women and genuine intentions wouldn't dare act this way. As to your question about him being vocal about random women and their bodily assets, he did mention a few female celebrities that he found attractive. All in all this guy is really looking like a douche and someone I definitely will NOT be seeing ever again. Thanks for your message and input 3
shet Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I dunno. There's some duff advice in here regarding "maintaining mystery", which is a concept only the young or terminally single blabber about because any serious live-in relationship comes down, very fast, to everything being utterly exposed. I actually have an easier time believing a guy who'll just let it rip like this has arrived at some kind of end-state acceptance of bodily function, like a true adult, rather than "being uncouth". At the same time, a third date... he might keep a lid on it for the moment, right. Personally, I enjoy women being comfortable enough around me to drop one. That's body confidence. 1
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