StringsAttached Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 (edited) This is a bit long but it may help some in getting that final closure that will set you free. Many of you wonder when you will get over your ex. What it will take to get over your ex. How you will get over your ex. Now, there is the mourning process everyone must go through. For some people it may take years to fully mourn and for others it may be a matter of weeks. It's different for everyone because everyone's relationship was unique. For me, personally, it took close to 2 years to fully understand what had happened, why it happened and what the future had in store for me. Love is a beautiful thing but the heartache that follows can also be the most devastating experience of your life. You may feel as if there is no hope whatsoever and that hurting yourself is the only way to quell the fire burning in your system...but obviously it's very counterproductive. The thing I would like to write about is the No Contact rule. It works. However, after a while even NC loses its power and you eventually will start thinking about your ex again, no matter the distance or time. In order to fully get over your ex, I believe that avoidance - is you just delaying another inevitable setback. We humans are very curious creatures and we love to know exactly what's going on in the life of someone we obsess or care about. So it's only natural that after some time you will check in on your ex to see how he/she are doing. That's fine, you will face setback after setback until you realize that the thing holding you back from freedom is yourself. Your ex is a person. A human. Bound to the same laws of the universe as the rest of us. They are not supernatural beings. It's you who makes them out to be that way and only you. Once you realize this you will be over your ex. Once you realize that your ex is not always happy and that they too are struggling through life, you realize that they, like all others need to be shown empathy. They need to be shown mercy and understanding. You live everyday of your life with unanswered questions in your mind. If you have not received full closure from your ex, it should not affect you in the slightest. Just put it away as another one of those unanswered questions. It's when you realize that your ex is human and not a martian, that you will free yourself from their grasp. Once you free yourself, just watch how you will flourish. Take my relationship as an example. First woman I ever 'loved'. Thought I would grow old with. Have children with and when it ended I was devastated. Now 2 years later, i'm engaged to an even better woman, in fact she is my dream girl. I'm closer to God and I got my life back on track so I can finally enjoy it again. I wasted 2 years of life wallowing in self pity and despair when the answer was right in front of my eyes the whole time. I was just too immature and blind to see it. Please, I implore you not to go down this destructive path. Realize that you are not alone and that there is a greater purpose for all us. Just the fact that your ex left you should be enough to make you realize that They did not love you. If they loved you they would be with you right now. Truth. So quit being such a baby and go see the world. How much time do each of us have left anyway? Who's to say that tomorrow will even come? Good luck to you all and thank you to everyone who helped me in my time of need. I feel for all of your situations and I will pray to God that you all find peace and solace. Edited December 14, 2014 by StringsAttached 2
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