TheOneWhoKnows Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I'll make this very short. My ex girlfriend broke up with me two months ago. It took me quite a while to get over her, as I did really love her (two months may not seem much, but truth is I'm not completely over her, I just feel confident in moving on). I have managed to get over her though, but now I have a thing for her friend, who is also my friend. I've known this friend for over 10 years, and I've really grown to like her a lot. The problem is that I feel like it's wrong to date my ex girlfriend's friend (one of her best friends, to be exact). In addition to this, this girl, my ex's friend, might actually be dating a guy already. I'm not completely sure about this though. The reason I really like her is because she reminds me a lot about my ex, but she's more like me. We have similar interests, but we're different enough to keep things interesting. If I were to contact her, how would I do it? I feel it would be weird to just send her a text or a Facebook message. But most importantly, should I contact her at all?
organizedchaos Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I'd vote no. Plenty of other women out there. You're trying to maintain a connection to your ex. You will damage their friendship. Sounds like a pretty selfish thing to do on your part. 1
Author TheOneWhoKnows Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 I'd vote no. Plenty of other women out there. You're trying to maintain a connection to your ex. You will damage their friendship. Sounds like a pretty selfish thing to do on your part. That's what I have been thinking. I didn't really plan on contacting her, but I thought I'd hear other's opinion.
preraph Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Following through on that will permanently damage your reputation. You don't do that. It's taboo. It is too hurtful and causes too many complications and requires your ex to either cut you both off or have to see you together. No. There are billions of women in the world. Why would you focus on your ex's friend? 1
Gloria25 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 The reason I really like her is because she reminds me a lot about my ex, but she's more like me. We have similar interests, but we're different enough to keep things interesting. I applaud you for having this level of introspectiveness. I ask you to not go through with it. I believe my recent crush was crushing on me cuz I remind him of his manipulative, skanky, waste of a toxic ex. Now, I don't have ANYTHING in common with that piece of trash and feel/felt offended and insulted that I would remind him of her. Especially when I think he fears me, cuz of the poop she is/was and/or did to him. The only thing I have in common with her is that were mixed races...but, we don't even look alike (go figure). I don't want some guy to be staring at me cuz I remind him of someone else. I want him interested in "me". Please don't waste this girl's time cuz she reminds you of your ex. 1
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