heartache25 Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 So last night, my ex emailed me asking to cone see her, 5 month after leaving me. Many times I broke nc and it went bad. Anyhow, I still kinda wanted my ex back, although in good progress of moving on. She msged me @ 12,am, asking me to come see her, so I did....we hugged, kissed, she cryed that she missed me and that she loved me. I new she was drunk, she wanted to have sex from the kissing, I politely declined, as I didn't want her waking with regrets. This morning she msged me saying sorry and that she felt bad, we've been talking today but the msgs from her are short, one worders. Should I leave her alone or give her space to think?
NopeNah Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Yes..step away and look at it. I was pulled in the same way in the past. Drunk,lonely,selfish. She does not want you back fully. If you give in to her whenever she wants, she'll devalue you and fast.
BC1980 Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 She doesn't want you back. She reached out when she was in a bad spot and took advantage of your feelings for her. 4
BlueIvy Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 So last night, my ex emailed me asking to cone see her, 5 month after leaving me. Many times I broke nc and it went bad. Anyhow, I still kinda wanted my ex back, although in good progress of moving on. She msged me @ 12,am, asking me to come see her, so I did....we hugged, kissed, she cryed that she missed me and that she loved me. I new she was drunk, she wanted to have sex from the kissing, I politely declined, as I didn't want her waking with regrets. This morning she msged me saying sorry and that she felt bad, we've been talking today but the msgs from her are short, one worders. Should I leave her alone or give her space to think? Leave her alone. She only reached out to you when she was drunk. Don't let her play you.
EgoJoe Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 You did really well by not having sex with her. I would send her a message stating why contact is bad. Here is an EXAMPLE of what you COULD say: "I'm here for you if you are in absolutely dire need but I have my own feelings to be concerned with. Though I've moved on it is still not in my best emotional interests to have spurious contact with you. Please take care of yourself, goodbye."
LostInLosingLove Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 You did really well by not having sex with her. I would send her a message stating why contact is bad. Here is an EXAMPLE of what you COULD say: "I'm here for you if you are in absolutely dire need but I have my own feelings to be concerned with. Though I've moved on it is still not in my best emotional interests to have spurious contact with you. Please take care of yourself, goodbye." I wouldn't even give her that kind of acknowledgement. Think it, no need to say it. IMHO. 2
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