SethDamien Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Ok this is pretty basic, im 23 and i have a crush she's 24, but she lives halfway around the world, but we've known each other for a while. Obviously, i cant see her on a daily basis, and i cant call her. but she is always active in fb... is it ok if i confess my feelings for her there? oh and by the way, she's my ex's sister.. i cant bear the thought that im denied the rights to love her simply because they share the same blood with my ex... she is very nice, have a good sense of humor, and very pretty, and she's all i ever think about all of the time... should i confess on facebook? what are your opinions on me dating my ex's sister?
doeblin Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 (edited) should i confess on facebook? Not a great idea. Assuming you want to date her, you have to meet her on a regular basis. Even couples in LDR need to meet at least every other week. Confessing through words in general and via text in particular are not very effective, I think. Show, don't tell. You need to meet. what are your opinions on me dating my ex's sister?Sounds like trouble. Edit: Wait a minute... this ex we're talking about, is the ex you share an apartment with? You need to get out of there. Edited December 14, 2014 by doeblin 1
ExpatInItaly Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 This is a disaster waiting to happen. Don't do it, OP.
Author SethDamien Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 Not a great idea. Assuming you want to date her, you have to meet her on a regular basis. Even couples in LDR need to meet at least every other week. Confessing through words in general and via text in particular are not very effective, I think. Show, don't tell. You need to meet. Sounds like trouble. Edit: Wait a minute... this ex we're talking about, is the ex you share an apartment with? You need to get out of there. yes.. the ex who's living in the apartment next door. LOL... i know it sounds silly, but i've really grown fond of her sister... and by the time her sister goes back from abroad, they will have moved houses by then. Trying to win my ex back for 10 months made me tired, and seeing her date another guy just made me numb. Now i feel im ready to start dating again, even though its her sister. LOL.
Author SethDamien Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 and yes, i agree, this has been troubling me for a while, if i want to tell her, it should be personal... i guess inviting her someplace when she gets back would be the way to go...? but still, there's the issue that she's my ex's sister... i know the possible drawbacks of course, either i dont want to jeopardize their relationship, or she will hear what her sister (my ex) has to say about me before she judges and i dont think its a pretty good thought... what do you guys think?
organizedchaos Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I think no good can come of this. I think no matter how many of us tell you this (and who in their right mind would say go for it) you will do it anyway.
Author SethDamien Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 really sorry guys, i get what all of you are saying... nothing good can come of this... i guess my first gut instinct is to start dating again, and im jumping off to the first person i see myself with... i guess i've been infatuated w/ her sister during our 4-course relationship with my ex. I know what all of you guys will say. And i've been with her sister for a while before she went away, we could laugh together, have fun together (with the presence of my gf of course).... i just really want to see how things will go if i confessed to her... why do i have to feel this way? argh! im just sh***ing myself here...
doeblin Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Sooo did you come here for permission or advice? My advice is: move to a new apartment (or if she's moving soon that's alright too), change jobs* (you are very young!), and never ever contact that family again. *You're working with your ex and her new BF, right? Get out of there. 1
Author SethDamien Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 im asking for advice, and you're advice will serve as permission. so if it aint good, then i wont. I trust you guys have heard and experienced more of these things to know how it will turn out... i'll cut communication with her family once and for all. im planning to get out of work.. talking with my friends and family and especially the advises here in the forums have pushed me to really do it... thanks!
LostOne1 Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Dude I went through the same thing... and I'm so glad I didn't ask my ex's sis out. It would have been a huge diaster and tons of drama. On top of that you don't want to be known as the guy that came between two sisters. her family will always hate you for life! Trust me dude.. lot's of other women out there. Let this one go.....
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