rj121185 Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Hi All, Im new to this forum and heres my story and would like your thoughts. My ex and myself broke up about 3 weeks ago. Her reasons were "I feel that I have to force myself to come and see you", "I want to do things on my own" "I feel bad for not replying to a message and I only reply because I know your waiting for the reply", "I know im being selfish but this is how I feel". A few weeks if not days before that we were talking about spending time at the beach house this summer, going overseas on a holiday, going to work together. I did feel her getting distant and I asked her the normal question, "Whats wrong, is something bothering you" to which I got the usual answer, "Nothings wrong". Even though I didn't believe the answer I let it go since I figured she didn't want to talk about it. A bit of background, she was with another guy when I first met her and eventually they broke up because of me, as she preferred spending time with me due to us being casual and relaxed and just having a good time. After the break up she sent me 3 messages 1) Hi, hows it going? (I didn't reply) 2) I take it we are going are separate ways (I didn't reply....made me wonder why she was asking me since she wanted the break up) 3) Fine don't reply - to which I replied this "I don't see the need to keep in touch with you because of the way you felt, you had to force yourself to see me, you had to force yourself to spend time with me and you had to force yourself to keep in touch. If the reason for the breakup has changed don't message me, call me instead because I hate sms's, besides I rather be with someone who wants to be with me" I haven't heard from her since that message. The breakup was sudden but I saw it coming so to speak but what I don't understand is what the hell happened. I figured its been 3 weeks and that she would try to get in touch with me. I know deep down that she will call me but at the end of the day I miss her and sometimes feel the need to speak to her but I know I shouldn't. Question is how do I get her back, shes usually a very closed person and rather bottle things up that she feels rather than talk about it. I feel she hasn't even thought about her feelings but at the end of the day I miss her and wana talk to her. Let me know your thoughts on what I should do. Ray
HurtGator Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I think the better question, why do you even want her back? Have you done anything to her to get her to break up with you? Did you break her trust in any way? If not, you don't want this type of woman. She is flaky, immature, and insincere. You want a real woman! Someone who will stay by you no matter what (unless you cheat, abuse, or do something illegal). I see more and more woman just quitting a perfectly good relationship because they just get bored or they just simply lose feelings. These types of women are not marriage material. Feelings come and go, but what binds couples together after the honeymoon phase is trust, companionship, and friendship. You missed a huge redflag before you started to officially date (don't worry, I made the same mistake)!!! When she broke up with her previous exbf for you, you forgot to realize you started dating an emotional cheater. Look for a better woman! 2
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